u/Legitimate_Angel1008

I’ve been with my husband for a year and a half now. we’ve lived with my family for a majority of our relationship. when we had our own place we both worked but i would do majority of the house chores. when i’d ask for help he would help but it’d take him awhile to actually do it. sometimes he wouldn’t even do it till the next day. i had talked to him about it and he said he’d work on it and he did. but i would still have to ask him to do things. idk if that’s jus a me thing that i need to work on but i really hate asking for him to help me with things around the house. i just wish he would just see something that’s messy or that needs to be done and do it. after we had our daughter i stopped working and we moved with my mom. he worked long hours so i didn’t bother asking him for a lot of help. he did do a few things without me asking here and there which i appreciated. but now he’s in the process of joining the army and isn’t really working now and he doesn’t help around the house unless i ask. after dinner i clean up the kitchen and he goes on his game. yes i could just ask for help and he would help but i wish he would just offer instead of me having to ask. am i wrong cuz ive talked to him and he said he’d can’t read my mind so if i need or want help with anything to just ask.