u/LetsBeginAgain00

I've been lurking here for a while and often see posts about MM who say they don’t divorce because their wives because they are the main breadwinners. I’m curious to know if anyone else is in the opposite situation where the MM is the one relying on his wife for financial stability? How did that affect your relationship? And if you found out later, rather than knowing that from the get-go, how did it change how you viewed him?

I have found myself in this mess, and I can fill in more details if y'all are interested.

When we met, I was separating from my husband, and MM was supposedly on a similar timeline. At first, he confided a lot about how his wife treated him, and said he wanted to relocate and get a divorce so he could be closer to his own family across the country. Over time, I realized that was just a vague aspiration that he revisits out of guilt and because he misses his family. He's unhappy in general, not unhappily married.

I have since gotten divorced and need to let this go; it doesn't serve me. But part of me feels like I have something to prove. I am glad I finally got the courage to post here.