u/Level_Ad6795

What do you expect in return before having sex for the first time with a new provider?
How long do you date before having sex for the first time?
What’s the intimacy timeline that has worked out for you?

Asking because I’m new here! I’ve always dated older, wealthy men because I have a thing for them. They would provide after enough time together just because they could. But this is my first time dating them more strategically. In the past, I’ve been the type to hook up on the first date. 🫣 Now I refuse to do that. Also I’m at that stage in life where I’m not only looking for a provider, but a husband I can have children with too.

Edit to add more context: Unfortunately I am a higher sex drive girly. I am just as eager as the men, ugh. But I have been doing amazing controlling that. Now I’m dating a strong candidate for a provider / husband / future father for the last month. 3 dates, first was dinner, then a money date, and then another money date. Only kissed. I never directly asked for $ but I reject sexual advancements by hinting it because he’s only spending, not spoiling and he’s still pursuing just not spending. The sexual tension is getting high. What should I do? I genuinely got him at my knees now.

TLDR: Any tips for becoming more quick-witted with wealthy men? I’ve come a long way on my transformation, but I’m struggling to keep up with conversation without looking slow. I aspire to be as quick witted as Shera Seven!

I know Shera says to always remain logical but my problem isn’t that I’m losing myself to emotion, it’s literally that my nervous system is NOT WIRED to be surrounded by wealthy men. Even if I look the part, act the part, talk the part, even feel the part… every time I go in a date with a potential partner, my f*cking brain short circuits while interacting with them because I have never heard the things they say or seen the things they do, never in my life. I never actually say or do anything wrong or not in my favor, I just start to act… slow? My brain is literally performing gymnastics trying to dodge my first reactions and craft a new one every time.

I just want to become quick witted around wealthy men. I feel like that’s the last major milestone for me in my transformation. As a girl who went from an emotional pickmeisha to getting bills paid by outstanding gentlemen, I’m proud. It’s just that now I’m looking for not just a provider but a HUSBAND since I want to have kids.

Recently started dating a suitable provider / potential husband but I feel like I’m not wowing him in conversation. I always blank out and get spacey, have a subpar response. Then a minute later I finally think of what I wanted to say. 😂

Where can I go to network with wealthy men in a daytime / not clubbing environment, where’s it accessible to a woman like me? I just want to be surrounded by these guys in conversation so I can practice when the stakes are low.