AITBA for wanting to be treated like an adult but not confronting the issue?
I F31 am moving into the basement apartment of my parents' house. Moving back home was my father's M77 suggestion. My partner M26 is joining me in this move as we have lived together the last 2 years.
My partner is unable to support themselves due to physical and mental health issues, and we are moving out of his sisters house now, and there are no other housing options for him. He takes care of the house chores and most of the cooking.
My mother F64 does not like him. He is autistic and very opinionated when it comes to hypocrites and injustices. My father doesn't always treat my mother with the respect and acknowledgment she deserves; in the past, he had stood up for her and pointed out the disrespect when she was just letting it happen and accepting it. She did Not care for that.
We pay rent for a separate contained area. We contribute to the house with maintenance and supplies as well. My mother is very religious. My partner and I are not married. I asked if getting married would change her mind on this topic, and she said no. I am being forced to sleep in their spare room, separated from the apartment. My father doesn't care either way.
I am very indignant about this arrangement as I am an adult and renting a separated space, but I am not pushing back as I abhore confrontation and know that there will be a large fight occurring if I do. My partner is upset with me for not doing anything about this and he isn't doing anything as it's my mother and he knows he won't keep his cool and choose the proper words when speaking with her.
So, am I the bad apple for wanting to be treated as an adult or not confronting this situation head on?