Is This A Red Flag?
I’ve dating someone for two years and she’s at first, felt like my person. We are in a 30s and I ran into an incident the other day. She just realized a store clerk she’s friendly with and talks to often is a girl I dated for 2months, 6 years ago. I told her we use to talk and in passing with the conversation the other day it came up. She upset because she thought i was lying and hiding that fact. She said she wouldn’t be so friendly with a girl who I slept with. She told me I should have told her I slept with her but my reply was we use to talk meaning slang for date when I first figured it out a year ago. I didn’t go into details because I thought that would be weird. And I also don’t like her so I never go to that store which she knew. I felt like it was an honest misunderstanding and sometimes she goes through monthly depressions and I’m afraid this would trigger them.
Later in the convo I gave her example of a friend I met of hers in passing and that I didn’t know she hooked up with once. I told her most adults wouldn’t care about this (prly not the best use of words) but she told me some adults do and some adults don’t.
I talked to my friends and they’re telling this is a huge red flag and I should run.
Is this a big deal? What Could I have done better?