AITJA for confronting my half brother?
Am I the jerk for calling my older half sibling from my dad and telling him I've cut them off? I'm 28M, he is 46. He's very successful and was a role model growing up. Especially as a young boy. He never had any issues with me. I always knew I had a cool, successful and handsome brother who lived in the coolest places in the world etc
It all changed when he got married to his wife. His wife hates my dad's family with a passion and disdain. And oddly for me as well. Which I never understood as a child. She just gave cold vibes.
My brother who would home and gather everyone at home and organize a dinner at restaurant and make sure I was no part of it I remember being excited thinking, wow we're all going out. Then I just saw everyone leave and I was left alone in the house. The over and over it happened and I saw it weird. When I was about 13 years old, we were living with my cousin who we brought to live with us because he was orphan to be with us, my mom and dad. I was so happy to finally have a new brother. He was a bit older and he was so cool.
Then his behavior changed and he started bullying me in our room, calling me names like dog, teasing me and kicking me and beating me. I would tell my folks but they never believed me. It got so bad that my cousin would refuse to eat my mom's food after some time and I saw it weird.
I was a big Chelsea fan and everyone knew it. I had been asking my dad and even my brother if when he was back he could get me a Chelsea jersey. Time goes by and my cousin goes to visit my brother in house across the country. I have never set a foot there nor even have a relationship with his kids because they came only once on Christmas or sometimes never. Jiki, jiki, my cousin comes home wearing a Chelsea jersey with my favorite players name. The one I asked for. Cool.
So my brother is living way across the world and invites my dad to come over to have a holiday. But only has room for two. So he asked my dad and my cousin to come. Always saw it weird because my parents were basically together for decades.
He purposely would exclude me or outright not even make an attempt to talk to me for years until I was in university, second year. I was now 19/20. We'd speak every 6 months or so and it felt like a formality.
Basically, my half siblings from my dad hate me and see me as illegitimate and this ONE sibling, was behind all of it. He was the one feeding my cousin to bully me and resent my mom growing up.
And you know what, I'm good. I called him, I was drunk and something said, you need to confront him now while you have the fire because you will probably never see this guy again and even when you do, it will be the same fake shit. At least let him know what you think of him. The guy couldn't care less. And you know, I feel bad for talking to him like that but my other siblings treat him like God because he has money and plays games with their lives and making them submit to him.
I don't want nor need love from bro, but I love to address things. The mistreatment which filled me with such shame growing up, that I was a bastard and illegitimate caused me so much pain and the fact it was done my the guy I believed in the most really did hurt. And I was through with acting like everything is good.
Everyone in the family is talking about it and the other siblings, who don't have the heart to say it to him, are acting like I didn't say the truth. They were all thinking it and deep down, I'm right. All my half siblings disdain me but somehow still keep close to my mom who is now married to my dad.
Basically, yeah. Am I wrong for feeling like I did something out of line or was I right to say something? We haven't spoke since. We hadnt interacted in 2 yeats before that call either....
When my dad passes one day in the far future, I will never keep up tbh. I don't have any of my siblings numbers anyway.
I wish I could confront him face to face but atp, I've said all that needs to be said?
TLDR: Called him and addressed the bullshit he used to do and now I'm good on him as a person.