u/LibraryRansack

Hi, all!

My partner and I are having a very small, budget-friendly wedding this upcoming September. We're trying to save money—student loans, planning for a family, you all understand—by keeping things small and intimate. This means our guest list, if everyone RSVPs yes (and including my partner and I) is 24 people total.

The hiccup: we're getting married in our local city hall, and then walking down the street to a lovely dinner venue afterwards. City Hall strictly limits the number of people who can be inside for a marriage, so only my partner and I, our two sets of parents, and our officiant are allowed to be present (our parents are our witnesses). I'm not really worried that our other guests will be offended by that—everyone invited is super chill, and our friends who we would like to come to dinner afterwards will understand. We're mostly starting at City Hall because we love how gorgeous the location is, and to take photos.

As opposed to including an all-event RSVP card with the invitation, we're instead enclosing small RSVP inserts which direct folks to our wedding website. (Invitation and RSVP insert attached.) Here, they'll be provided with more details, and when dinner guests enter their names to RSVP, it will only populate the events they're invited to (after-party dinner, farewell brunch at our house) vs. a grayed out ceremony response or something. So I feel pretty confident about our website; it's full of details and explanations about City Hall capacity, and people who aren't being included in the ceremony itself won't have that rubbed in their faces with their RSVP options.

How should I word this on our invitations? It feels awkward to say a start time, since not everybody will be arriving at the same time for the same event. It also feels odd to give a specific location, since not everybody will be congregating there to begin with. Should I just trust the RSVP portion of our website will clear things up, and then make sure people have reminders on the day of? Should I list a ceremony and dinner time? Should I add more to my invites as they are now?

Thanks! 💐

EDIT: I guess I could also make a note of this on the RSVP insert? The same RSVP enclosure, but with a statement like "XXX City Hall strictly limits the number of people who may be present at a wedding to the couple, witnesses, and officiant. Our website link will specify which event to RSVP to." But is this too harsh? I don't want to be tacky!

I’m working on the Chapter Shawl by Lily Kate France, and I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong AT ALL. I’ve frogged and retried like 7 or 8 times to no avail.

The photo is the right side of my work, about 26 rows in. I’ve included some screenshots of what it’s SUPPOSED to look like as well. It seems like mine is curving in the wrong direction, and doesn’t have the right pattern or stitch definition at all. It’s driving me crazy!

I’m attaching the first few rounds as well.

It’s such a beautiful pattern. I have the right gauge, needles, I know all the stitches individually, and I’ve been knitting for over 6 years at this point. But it’s still not adding up—the whole thing is a huge mess. What am I doing wrong?

EDIT: Thanks for all your comments, everyone. After trying again, i’ve decided to quit knitting forever!

Jokes aside, I don’t have any knitting friends near me who can watch me as I do it and try to see what’s going wrong, but I am going to try and video call with a friend to see if she can figure out what mistakes I’m making. I need an editor in a major way.