Our s*x drives don't match
Problem: We've been doing the deed less since we started living together. How do you approach it when your sex drives don't match? Should I try to spice things up? Or should I adjust nalang and find ways to lower my sex drive?
Context: Akala ko mataaas ang sex drive ng mga trentahin hahaha. When we started dating, I thought mas mataas sex drive ng partner ko (29) kesa sakin (26). Nagulat nga ako we had a week na parang 5 times kaming naging intimate hahaha.
But I was wrong. Mas mataas pala ang sex drive ko compared to hers. When my partner and I started living together, we started doing the deed less. Hindi ko magets. No matter how flirty we were throughout the day, with the touches, manyakan, and all, pagdating ng gabi she's not in the mood.
Kaya ko naman mameet yung sexual needs ko alone, matagal naman akong naging single. Kaso I've been having a hard time kasi I can't do it myself (yk alone) since we live together. Medyo nafu-frustrate lang ako.
I communicated this to her. Nung una tinatanong ko siya, bakit parang hindi na kami masyadong nagse-sex. Sabi niya mainit daw kasi hahaha. Wala pa kaming aircon. I used to believe this reason kasi mainit naman talaga last month.
Kaso cuddle weather na at lahat, ganun pa rin hahaha. So sabi ko, "bakit dati kahit mainit nagagawa naman natin everyday?". Natawa siya. She explained na dati kasi minsan lang daw kami magkita unlike now na lagi naman kaming magkasama. When we got serious, sabi ko I feel less loved when there's no intimacy. But I think I made her feel na puro sex lang gusto ko sa relationship namin. Nakita ko may repost siya na she feels lusted and not loved. Which made me sad because it's not true. But I'm not gonna list down everything that I do everyday to make her feel loved.
What do you think? May chance pa ba na ma-match niya yung sex drive ko? Anything I can try to spice things up? Or ako nalang mag-adjust? How do I lower my sex drive?
I really want this relationship to work. Bawi muna ako sakanya so she feels genuinely loved.