Do not do this, if you can get out while you can.
My husband joining the Air Force was one of the worse things he could’ve ever possibly done to our relationship. The only reason he even joined is because we were 21, living in an apartment that we now couldn’t afford because he lost his job. The whole process was stupid because they kept delaying everything and we just ended up getting in even more and more financial holes that a year later we still have to struggle to get out of. We haven’t even been married a year and the whole time we’ve been married it seems all we can do is argue, and not see eye to eye.
These military men don’t understand the strain we have to go through as the spouses, especially when you’re left dealing with all the financial burden and loneliness all by yourself. And then you have to get thrown all over without any clear idea to how long you’ll be there or how long the process will take. This shit is not it. And honestly, I’ve been considering just walking away from this because sometimes love really isn’t worth all the mental and physical effort that it takes to make it work with a military man.
If you have the option to just leave the person joining the military, or thinking of sticking it out. Take my advice and just don’t because when it’s too late to get out it’s really too late. I’ve literally had to put all my plans on the back burner, leave a job that I really like, and I don’t even know if I’ll be able to find another job because no one wants to hire a military spouse who doesn’t even know when they will be able to go to the fucking duty station with their spouse. Just don’t do it.
It’s not worth all the bullshit.