Married almost 5 years, never used birth control, never been pregnant—should we start actively trying now?
Hello! I'm mainly looking for opinions or to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation.
I (24) and my husband (26) don't have kids yet, but we definitely want them, ideally 3–4. We've never really had a set timeline, and we've always had more of an "if it happens, it happens" approach. We don't use any form of birth control, and I have never been on birth control. Whenever people ask us when we're having kids, my husband usually says, "Hopefully one by 27."
We've been married for almost 5 years, and despite never preventing pregnancy, I've never been pregnant or even had a pregnancy scare. Lately, I've started wondering if maybe I have fertility issues, or if we've just been lucky (or unlucky) enough that it hasn't happened.
The thing is, I'm starting to feel ready to begin our family. Since we know we want multiple kids, I'm wondering if it makes more sense to start actively trying now instead of waiting until I'm closer to 27. By actively trying, I mean tracking ovulation, tracking BBT, taking prenatal vitamins, and timing intercourse around my fertile window.In my mind, I don't see a huge difference between starting now versus waiting another couple of years. If either one of us has an underlying fertility issue, I'd rather find out sooner than later instead of feeling like time is slipping by.
I do have an OBGYN appointment next month because there's been some discussion about whether I could have PCOS, although my primary care doctor doesn't think I do. Either way, I'd like to get answers before we intentionally delay trying.
So I guess my questions are:
Would you start actively trying now if you were in my position?
Would you bring this conversation up with your spouse now or wait until closer to 27?
Has anyone else gone years without using birth control and then found out there was an underlying fertility issue, or ended up conceiving once you started tracking ovulation?
I'd really appreciate hearing other people's experiences. 🫶🏻