I (21F) told my bf (22M) to cut off his female friend who had confessed him first because she has been asking to hang out. Am I controlling or okay?
I want you to be neutral and objective in this scenario. so, i'm dating a man and before me, there was a girl from his friend group who liked him romantically and confessed him. he rejected her because he didn't have feelings for her. they are still friends even after we got into a relationship. my bf said she doesn't like him anymore (she didnt say this but acc to him, she doesn't act like she likes him anymore) So, the girl and I have met each other and she dislikes me. On the first meet, she refused to acknowledge me. my bf said that she dislikes any other girl who is trying to enter the friendgroup, so it's not a big deal. On the second meet, my bf introduced both of us, but she didnt want to talk, so she was just quiet and I didn't talk either. So, she has been calling him for trivial things, not romantic coded but she does. a while ago, she asked him to 'hang out' with her alone. Also, she calls him to meet him if she knows 'he's in the area' through snapchat. He rejected her both the times. So, I told him to tell her that this is not okay for me because I feel insecure. I also had a lot of overthinking because I had previously told him to cut her off but my bf didnt want drama and he refused. Things got a little heated between me and my bf, and he called her politely as I told and she started crying (he predicted that she'd cry too) and got defensive stating she didnt do anything wrong. Now, their friendship and friendgroup is also broken and his friends from his friend group are blaming him for breaking the friendgroup. I dont understand if im controlling or did I do the right thing. also, for the context: my bf is extremely loving and respectful towards me and he has told me multiple times that he doesn't care about her but his refusal to cut contact because it would 'cause drama' bugs me.