u/LiteralLesbians — reddlx

People always ask "what do you mean 'shares common experiences'?" when it comes to women who are les4les. It can be difficult to think when pressured on the spot. So, how about we come up with a list of unique lesbian experiences?

Imo, it's okay if some of these align similarly to what gay men go through, because while we're obviously inherently incompatible we do share some common life events. Namely: the existential crisis and dread that comes with finally realizing (and accepting) that you are different from everyone else in a significant way and will never be able to live a "normal" heteronormative life like your peers.

Edit Note: This is mostly for fun. I'm not saying we NEED to or should have to justify ourselves. I thought it would make for an interesting discussion without much fighting.

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u/LiteralLesbians — 14 hours ago

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In the face of ahistorical revision becoming so popular, it's important that we remember our history.

I didn't make the graphic. It is largely correct, but I would like to acknowledge that Stormé was a biracial lesbian with a Black mother and a white father. Her mother was a domestic servant working for a wealthy white household during the Jim Crow era. Her father paid for her education, but it didn't make life any easier for Stormé in her childhood during a time where biracial were even less accepted than they are now. She learned to use her racially and sexually androgynous appearance to her advantage in adult life, frequently choosing to present herself as white, Black, male, or female. She would go on to tour with a Black theater circuit as the MC and a drag king, and would regularly play at the Apollo Theater and in front of mixed-race audiences. Stormé never expressed a firm gender identity, stating that she'd respond to "whatever makes YOU feel most comfortable" while noting "I'm still a woman."

Stormé would lose her lover Diana in the 1970s and never truly moved past it, with friends claiming she would carry her photograph everywhere. She outlived her partner by several decades until she passed in her sleep, likely from a heart attack, on May 24, 2014. Her funeral was held in Greenwich Village, the community she had fought so hard to defend.

Stormé was known as guardian of lesbians in the Village" and "the Rosa Parks of the gay community."

I highly recommend looking into the sources used in her Wikipedia article and visiting storme-delarverie(DOT)com/who-s-storme to learn more.

u/LiteralLesbians — 25 days ago

▲ 199 r/lesbiangang

I'm convinced most people are lying when they claim they've been bullied by gold stars for not being gold stars.

Yes, I know, another GS post, but I really want to discuss this issue.

In all my years I've encountered ONE gold star with gross opinions on SA and the like when one of the most common "arguments" I hear against gold stars is that we supposedly count SA as part of ones sexual history, when it's actually regularly acknowledged that SA IS NOT SEX. And yet people make it seem like every other gold star is a heartless bitch who makes fun and degrades of people for having sex with or having been attacked by men.

It doesn't make sense. I think a lot of them are either misidentifying people, lying about the context, or straight up lying so they can be acceptably homophobic. I think a lot of them are taking a gold star talking about her unique experiences and are interpreting her words through a lense built by their individual shame toward experimenting with men and projecting their insecurities onto her.

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u/LiteralLesbians — 1 month ago

▲ 47 r/lesbiangang

Lesbian sex toys?

It's recently come to my attention that, beyond straps, there are sex toys made specifically for lesbians in mind. Today I learned vulva-shaped "grinders" exist. So, I'm curious what else is out there, and thought posting about it would be a lot faster than trying to wade through a bunch of websites who list only straps and transmasc strokers under their "queer" sections.

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u/LiteralLesbians — 1 month ago

▲ 476 r/lesbiangang

Has anyone else seen an increase in "if lesbians can like dildos they can like penises" rhetoric?

I've been seeing A LOT of it under the guise of being progressive and trans inclusive. I don't want to argue if trans people belong in lesbianism. I want to talk about how violent it is for people to use this rhetoric period. It's horrifying. How the hell can people think that a plastic toy is at all comparable to literal dick and balls?

I'm so tired of homophobia, conversion therapy rhetoric, and sexual violence against lesbians becoming increasingly normalized.

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u/LiteralLesbians — 1 month ago