u/LiterallyAzzmilk

I’m on a rented property, I can’t build a deck or anything, we have a wooden bulkhead. I don’t want to sink a Christmas tree (which seems to be the most common method) because I fish here and I’d rather not get snagged every time I cast.

I heard I could hang a sock with dog food in it to attract flies which would create maggots and they fall into the water which attracts bluegill. I’m down for that but just not by my house.

Someone else suggested sinking a few milk crates with bricks to create shelter for bluegill. I can do that as well
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On another note I have a kayak and one of the bayous I like going to used to have a lot of bluegill but in recent times they are only in a few areas, by cypress trees. I find that I’m not even getting bites by the cypress trees anymore. I want to attract more but I’m not sure what I can really do. I know that I can’t single handedly build their population but I’m considering going sink a bunch of milk crates along the bank, and set up some of those maggot dispensers lmfao, apparently that could help.. any advice?

Her and I got back together about a year ago, it lasted a year and we broke up again. We were together for a total of 3 years. We broke up again about 2 months ago. Her reason being the same as the last. Which, these are just problems of having a long term relationship. Things get old and routine becomes routine. I have my own company and I do struggle to balance home life and work.

Same like the last time she immediately gets into a relationship. She likes to monkey branch. If you’re unfamiliar with that term, it’s when they set a new relationship up while they’re still in the current one.

This guy has a lot of similarities to me. So close that everyone I know has mentioned it to me. Well that lasted as long as until a few days ago when she started blocking and unblocking me repeatedly. I know this because she would come up on my Snapchat as a quick add, she would be the first person. I asked her what did she want to say so bad that she kept unblocking and blocking me and she denied it at first and started crying fake tears. She tells me that she bought this guy MY COLOGNE, tried to get him to braid his hair the way I do and tried to literally clone me. I cannot make this shit up it is absolutely insane.

She breaks up with the guy comes to my house for a night, leaves in the morning where we continue to text. She insists that I am the problem, again. I reminded her that she has a hard time understanding that our problems come with being in a long term relationship and that she must not be ready for a longterm relationship if she thinks that we had problems. Which every relationship does have problems but these are minor things like “not spending enough time together.” After the last break up I created things for us to do and we can have fun together, to which she took part of but later complained about our activities. She made no effort to create activities and things for us to do as well. She left it in my hands, pretty much self sabotaging because if it was up to her we would be laying in bed rotting and being lazy.

From there she’s telling me that I need to change, I need to do this and this and that. I told her that I don’t need to do anything and that she needs to go to therapy. I never recommend therapy to anyone but she absolutely needs it. I also told her that she will not be satisfied in any actual long term relationship because she has a problem with things naturally becoming old. I have no fight left for this girl, she has taken all of it out of me. I didn’t even call her with intentions on getting back together or trying to work things out but I realize I should’ve never contacted that cunt.

Before all of this she left me (self sustaining man with a successful company) for a guy who is a waiter at Chilis. She got pregnant for him, without knowing, fixes things with me, then she finds out she’s pregnant and has an abortion. She even got my name tattooed on her arm when I kept telling her not to.

I changed my cellphone number, I have her blocked on every platform I have, and she created new Snapchat accounts linked to her email and phone number so I get recommended any account she created and so far I have blocked atleast 3 accounts since then.

They’ll do the same thing again I promise. It’s best just to move on. If you keep going through the cycle with them, you will become them. You will pick up habits to “protect” yourself when in reality you are just self sabotaging.

Over a year ago my avoidant spoke with a guy on Instagram for a few months. They were not just friends and he indeed was the exact opposite of what she said “you don’t have to worry about him” “he’s just a friend”. She accused me of cheating and checked my phone, in return I checked hers and that’s what I found.

She then leaves me and gets with him.. in her words only to “piss me off”. She gets pregnant by him just to piss me off, has an abortion just to piss me off and gets back with me to piss me off. We lasted 9 months before she did it again. Different guy, looks similar to me but just as the last guy he’s a super downgrade since that’s what she loves to do.

To put it into perspective I have my own company, we have navy contracts, we do big work, big contracts, we make a lot of money. The last guy is a bartender at chilis, and this guy I have no idea what he does but you can tell by the way he dresses and carries himself he’s a pos and his source of transportation is literally a dirtbike.

Towards the end this time, I felt like she was talking to someone else because she wore my air force 1’s to work which was very unusual. And then caught her deleting a bunch of conversations and stuff on Snapchat and she saw me see it, and makes a comment like “don’t start overreacting” I was already one foot out the door, I just had a feeling that I could’ve been wrong so I didn’t speak up. But I was right, she had another piece of garbage in mind.

I’m not upset anymore, because when the trash takes itself out you’re just supposed to be glad you didn’t have to be “the bad guy”.

I told myself I wasn’t going to take her back and I folded. This time I’m really not, it’s super over. Also that was the first time that I ever have even considered taking an ex back. I was vulnerable I suppose. I’m about to be 30 soon and it’s time to get the ball rolling with a family. I’m handsome I’m financially stable, I have a lot going for me; besides the fact that the avoidant bullshit has significantly depleted my longing to even want to date anymore.

I don’t do therapy or medicine or any of that stuff I just raw dog life, I’m just going to take this one on the chin and try my best to break some of these avoidant traits that I have accumulated along the way with that scumbag.

I’m successful, yallternative, and handsome. I enjoy fishing,camping, and gaming.

I couldn’t win it unfortunately