AITA for choosing my mom over my father?
⚠️Warning: A bit long
Hi everyone this is my first time writing a story and I just wanted to get some opinions on this.
My (19F) sisters (21F and 18F) have wanted me to live with our father (64M) for years, but I don't want to and here's the reason why.
For context, my parents were never married and split up in the early 2000s. When I was born, my father (Elijah) told my mom (Christy) that I wasn't his child and never would be. Ever since then, he has treated me differently from my younger sister Jackie.
Growing up, he would make me give Jackie my clothes even when I barely had any as we grew up poor. Whenever we argued, he would yell in my face and hit or shove me in the arms. In public, he acts like he loves me, but privately he has always treated me like a burden.
Things got worse as I got older.
Last October, Jackie and I got into a fight. She started hitting me, dragging me to the bed, and put me in a headlock. Now, my only instinct was to get out of the headlock. So, I did get free and then I dragged her by the ankles to the edge of the bed before I let go. She then fell off the bed and hurt herself. I was on the other side of the room when she started crying and then immediately screamed for Elijah.
He ran into the bedroom and saw her crying on the floor then glares at me. He stormed right up to me and started shoving me hard in the arm, screaming in my face. I tried explaining to him that she started the argument and he wouldn't listen to me. Then he started hitting my arm saying "how do you like it?" Then I screamed at him to stop hitting me and I locked myself in the bathroom.
While in the bathroom, I called my older sister, Ashley. She was living with her boyfriend in a different city. She told me to call the police if he ever put his hands on me again. I said okay. He was screaming at me to get out of the bathroom to which I told him I'm on the phone with my sister.
Eventually, I left the bathroom and went back into the room. Now, this is a one bedroom duplex and we had to share a room. Elijah slept in the living room. I ignored them both and thankfully they left me alone.
Fast forward to Christmas 2025, we are living in a 2 bedroom house with one bathroom. Elijah got the biggest room since it was closer to the bathroom and we shared a room again. Elijah decided to allow people he knew to live with us since they had a disabled daughter and were basically homeless. Ashley had moved in with us by this point. So, now everything is fine and whatnot.
January 9th, 2026, Ashley and I planned to go visit our family friend Gary (45M). He was staying with Seth (27M), who Ashley started dating after talking a while on messenger with him. We were only supposed to stay with them for a few days but we ended up staying there for a few more weeks since the breaker was broken and it was freezing in the house. Seth lives in a 2 bedroom apartment with 2 ½ bathrooms. For a while, Ashley and I slept in Seth's bed while he slept in the living room and Gary slept in his room. April 4th, 2026 Ashley moved out due to Seth manipulating her to stay with him even though he was talking to his ex. Jackie moved in the same day and then Seth and Jackie started dating. Jackie actually ended up leaving April 18th, 2026 to go back to living with our father after a huge fight with Seth and the fact he confessed to loving his ex that he abused. I stayed living with them as no one has done anything to me and I had a job that started April 2nd, 2026.
The living situation became absolutely terrifying.
On May 8th, 2026 Seth started confessing to disturbing things to me like how he planned my death and wanted to kill both of my sisters and our father. He then started talking about how it would be funny to set the disabled girl on fire which Gary then started laughing about. He mentioned how he wanted to burn down his school and shoot up his classes and who he wanted to shoot and that if he wanted to, he could leave really fast and that he would commit suicide to escape from being sent to prison. I had secretly started recording all of this. After his confession, I sent it to my mom and Ashley.
Now, my mom has always been supportive of me throughout my whole life. She bought me my very first work clothes when I was living with my father and he refused to. She bought us food to eat when Elijah didn't.
When I told her everything that Seth had done she got worried quickly. She told me that she will come and get me on May 11th, 2026 but changed it to May 10th, 2026. At first, she was going to take me to Elijah's but I asked her if I could live with her and her boyfriend instead to which she agreed on if I did chores everyday and was actively searching for a job and that I would have to help financially.
When I told my sisters that our mom was letting me live with her and that I wouldn't be moving in with them and our father, they got upset. They insisted that they wanted me there even though Elijah has made it very clear he doesn't want me there multiple times. They wanted me to give him another chance but I reminded them I gave him plenty of chances to change and be an actual father to me which he never did change. They called me an AH for not giving him another chance even though I gave him multiple chances.
So, AITAH for choosing my loving mom over my abusive father?