I might not be a lesbian???
For some context, I've been through a hard time accepting my sexuality, and now that I'm comfortable saying I'm lesbian, it became an important part of my identity.
But a couple months ago I met a non binary person that uses he/him and goes by a majority male name. I realized I had feelings for him and we kissed a couple days ago, and that really messed up with me cause I feel that since he is male presenting, it kinda invalidates my sexuality.
Even though I could use a different label, I don't feel any attraction to man (usually, not even male presenting people at all) so it doesn't feel right saying I'm bi or pan.
I hadn't talked to him about it yet, bc I don't even know how to start this conversation and cause I feel like that might sound like I'm invalidating his gender identity and I really don't want to ruin what's going on between us.
I just needed to vent about it, but if anyone has some advice, I could use some help