Elderly neighbour’s sudden hatred for us, how to deal with her?
As the title suggests, we’ve lived alongside one another for 10 years. She has been very anti-social over the years but tolerable. We are based in a very rural village in the UK, with no public transport and no shops. We live on a small crescent with 10 houses all semi- detached she is my only direct neighbour.
Over the years she has put weedkiller over my side of the fence, left rat poison under the hedgerow and insists on another neighbour down the road cutting a hedge I planted and very clearly within my boundary down both sides so it has a gap to nosey into my window. She recently removed a 6 foot fence and replaced it with a 3 foot one in the rear garden. It was her fence and she has lost feet alongside her boundary so I never complained and swiftly planted some additional hedging. A few weeks later she was complaining we didn’t contribute half the cost of the fence. We had no idea it was getting replaced, we would have happily paid the full amount to replace with 6ft fencing.
We’ve remained polite over the years but kept a safe distance, the prior owner of this home did warn us about her. So we decided it was safe to stay polite but at a distance. She is overly reliant on other people in the neighbourhood, one gardens, one cleans, one puts her bin out. She gossips about everyone and everyone tolerates her from what I can see.
Lately she has been aggressively driving in the middle of
The country roads I swear she drove deliberately at me, think country roads full of pot holes, mud and farm traffic. I saw her out in the wild this morning and she was glaring at me and the hatred was spilling out of her. It was unnerving. My husband is very non confrontational and I am the opposite.
Just to add she lives alone, her children never seem to visit and her dog passed away last year. There are lots of other passive aggressive things that have been said and done but I’ve let them go.
How should I manage this going forward??