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So me and my twin are having a hard time, she explicitly stated she is done with me last Friday during a big argument.. it hurts.

Yesterday night before sleeping I meditated and asked myself for guidance, and then I dreamt of her. In the dream we are in a restaurant, but she is married to another man and seems she has a daughter (as I remember).

What does that mean?? Is it a hint to let go, or it is a hint that this pattern now is not working? I am confused.

Is fully letting go the real lesson of this contract?

Has anyone been through that?

What happens when we truly let go?

Since the love will not go away and it is the deepest love we feel, how to cope with that? Letting it go seems very contradictory.

Anyone can share their reunion stories, and how it turn out and unfolded?

Will really appreciate your sharing❤️

I will try to make it short and precise. Thanks for your patience in advance.

So, me (28M) and her (28F) knew each other since 2017, and our relationship has been on and off and never official, because I was the runner and I was very good at it..

We share deep connection in many levels, and when we are together it feels like we are melting, like two objects having a string of energy in between, it was magical. We also share a fair share of traumas growing up, not exactly the same, but all those have been leading to:

- fear of abandonment
- fear to open up for real love (me mainly)
- fear of inadequacy
- people pleasing
- our parents’ issues (divorce parents for her, controlling parents for me)
- and more

Because I was avoiding her real love and myself, I kept on dating other girls for easy loves, and hurted her many times..

In 2025, I found her again after breaking up with my ex, with a heart ready to dig deeper with my twin. And because I haven’t done the inner work (I swear I didnt have the consciousness for that at that time), the connection didn’t work out, not only I rejected her for a relationship saying I am not ready, and I hurted her with my ego behaviours.

Then, we separated in August 2025 with a big fight.. By then, I had my awakening, I worked fiercely on myself and hoping. I need to admit that I DID NOT surrender and let go, I did that with the goal of being a better man for her. We connected again in February 2026, but things have been different, she was emotionally holding herself back, because in her eyes I was abandoning her, just like I did many times in the past. I tried to explain the difference but it was only my lens.

We argued about that for one time, and a few days ago (14/08/2026), I opened up again about this topic again, sharing my thoughts and my frustration, and she was done with me, the bomb exploded..

She said she has been patient with me (very patient for years), hoping I would choose her (than another person and my career as I have to move to another city), and that she is DONE with me. And that I should accept that it is an end for us, and the best thing I can do for her is let her go..

I have nothing to say because the past was bad, but since the awakening I tried 100% to be better, with a heart to love her for the rest of my life, yet I still haven’t been able to translate it into physical reality, renting a house to move in together, go travelling with her, and also my anxieties and insecurities.

After the big argument, we texted and gave eachother blessings, and appreciating each other for the journey. We also agreed that the bond is very very special. From that, although we also talked about I didn’t choose her (a bit arguing still), we both admitted that we have inner work and problems to work on, individually.

I want to ask:

I don’t want to believe that this is the end of our connection, although she stated clearly she is done with me. We share a deep history, bondings and everything feels connected, we still love eachother.

Shall I take her words this time and don’t look back?

Is having hope in this situation not helping me heal and grow fully?

Does anyone have experiences like this before? I have read from other stories that this kind of reunion only happens when two individuals cut the ties and really surrender to reality, and by then they can finally heal and learn to be whole and loving themselves enough, so that they can build a healthy relationship and achieve greater things (maybe together). Please give your opinions, I will very appreciate it.

Feel free to ask me questions for more details. Many thanks to yall!