r/twinflames

I'm largely at peace with where I'm at on this journey. I had a very turbulent, distressing previous relationship that mimicked a TF journey and really taught me how to be emotionally regulated even in the face of strong feelings and so I learned the lessons of unconditional love and healthy detachment then. I'm really lucky to be able to apply those lessons now to a journey that's been strange, confusing, messy but a LOT less wrenching. He and I are friends, and I respect that he's on his own path and ours may never cross again romantically, which is fine! I accept whole-heartedly that had we'd tried to be romantic now, it would be a wreck (and would probably end fast) and his decision to just be friends truly has protected us from walking a turbulent path. I'd rather him be healthy and happy than be with me and I, too, deserve happiness and a person who's ready now to meet me where I'm at. I understand the assignment which is to let that man do him while I do me lol. We have lots of mutual friends so I often see him out and, when I do, we have great banter and it's always a good time. The only thing that's really bothering me is this: I cannot be in a room with him without someone commenting on our connection--even as I try to accept it won't be going anywhere. Someone wanted to know, unprompted, if we were in love (and this was when nothing romantic had even happened yet). A friend said they felt uncomfortable being near us, like she should leave the room and give us some privacy. People want to know what's going on with us. My friend from elementary school who was visiting and who's not in this friend group even said something about it. It's incessant and I do not understand why this is happening. All we're doing is talking. It feels extremely disorienting to me since he's made it clear he sees me as a friend...but no one else sees it that way. It's like the one person who has a say in this is saying 'the sky is green,' and everyone else is saying, 'no, it's definitely blue' and I'm like 'it's probably blue but maybe it's green?' I 'm just not sure what I'm supposed to make of these remarks. They make this all so much harder

I’m starting to get really concerned that I may have completely imagined feeling someone’s energy because their actions completely contradict it. I don’t know if I genuinely have schizophrenia, I’ve been on this path for 14 years ish I think, I don’t know where else to put this or what to say, but im terrified that I’ve imagined the entire thing

I don’t know what to do?

I’m sorry if I’m not supposed to say this I just don’t know what to do, I’m in a total state over it

Runners , during intense and last separation period what were the specific experiences that made you realise that this connection is the one for you? What things happened with you that you finally approached the chaser and confessed ?

I've been on this journey for 4+ years and just figured out it's a TF situation. When I met my TF I literally felt like I was hit by lightning and my brain did summersaults and a voice in my head said, "it's him"! I thought I was losing it. I was almost immediately overtaken by the fear/knowledge that he would leave me. He was/is all I'd think about. At one point, I had a nervous breakdown from not eating, sleeping, etc. Eventually he did leave me and I learned to live without him -- and then he came back for a few months, and now he's left again. I'm trying not to chase him but not being in communication is like torture. I'm glad he's part of me forever (in spirit) but being apart now is heartbreaking for me. I never knew I could be so in love with someone. (And, I'm pretty old and have had plenty of other relationships). One thing I realized -- if I can love him I can love myself because we are one soul. I've always had low self esteem but I think he's so awesome that if he's part of me I must not be so bad. (That's what I'm telling myself anyway). I guess I just wanted to share. Suggestions or thoughts or encouragement are welcome but I'm very sensitive and depressed and lonely so take it easy on me...thx.

When you abandon your twin flame/soulmate because you have kids you dont want to abandon and they end up breaking your heart in a different way cause no matter how hard you work to provide and be there for them they still hate you.. and tell you they arent gonna even talk to you when they become an adult. So now you live with two heartbreaks. Why the hell do i even try anymore.

Wondering if there are any TFs who want to trauma dump about it all and bond over how hard the TF stuff is hitting us. I'm at the point where I'm pretty far along in moving on (maybe even onto someone new) and almost moved away from calling it TFs so I can accept this was most likely temporary and I don't have to be stuck on him for life. Just struggling with the residual nostalgia waves (you know what I mean) and hoping to get at least one last cathartic/purge moment to fully release his energy I guess. Anyway I'm 26 and I'm near Toronto, Ontario, Canada, if anyone wants to meet up and chat about it all.

We're being told that attachment is the reason our twins run.

So does that mean if I ever get into relationship (I'm not waiting on my twin, he made his decision, that's on him) I have to let them go too?

If there's any conflict, you don't resolve it but leave them for good because it's attachment that make you want to keep them and resolve the problem?

Also, does this journey want us to be completely alone if without our twin for the rest of our lives? Are we supposed to reject everyone and let everyone go?

Because it is bullcrap that you can decide for your twin. You can't. And the fact that these so called 'coaches' tell us we can't ever be happy with anyone else is disgusting.

I'm raging right now, to be honest.

I love my twin like I've never loved anyone before but if he doesn't want me, I'm not going to wait on him.

AND NEITHER OF YOU SHOULD EITHER!

Live your damn life! Go and LOVE! LOVE YOUR FRIENDS, GO ON DATES, LOVE YOUR HOBBIES, LOVE YOUR WORK! But most importantly, love YOURSELF!

What're your opinions?

My twin flame and I made a pact that is nearing the time it will come to fruition, everything feels crazier than it ever has in both the microcosm of my life and the macrocosm of the world, things keep directing me to believe that a happy ending with my twin flame in this 3D world physically united again, is possible. At this point, all the moving pieces in my life seem to have always always foretold this for me, for him, for us.

Now I’m not going to fixate on this to the point I’m going to limit what I can reach in my life and my career and the passions and interests and callings I have. I’m just going to completely and delusionally believe whole heartedly that my happy ending, our happy ending, is inevitable because I’ve done the work and I’m doing the work. I’ve made the sacrifices and I’ve lived through tremendous suffering and I’m seeing all the karma come back around and I earned this. So I’m living in the reality where this is a romance novel. Where I’m a Disney Princess. And I will get my happy ending no matter what. And I’m choosing to believe this to a delusional level simply because I can.

Surrender phase

I had my Inner Union on 12 August. It was an earth-shaking, ecstatic experience.

I got new opportunities at work, my entire condo block is being renovated after 40-50 years.

My twin also got further and further away. He eventually broke up with me 8 days ago but finalized it 5 days ago.

Now, I have some mild health problems, such as healing from a cold, having some rectal ruptures out of nowhere, and I also got a tattoo today, which also needs to heal.

I let him go. I surrender into the thought of him not coming back. Knowing him, he will though, but definitely without leaving his girlfriend.

Can anyone tell me more about the surrender phase?

Any help or advice is highly appreciated.