r/twinflames

After reaching inner union, I hardly think about my twin (which is great!), but my question is, to those of you who have also reached inner union, did you go through a phase where you were completely repulsed at the thought of your twin when they do seem to creep in to your thoughts?

After receiving a massive surge of kundalini energy after reaching inner union, I went from feeling nothing but euphoric, full body orgasms (don't know how else to describe it and never experienced anything like it) to now feeling asbolutely repulsed by him. I also recognize that there are things being mirrored back to me through being repulsed at the thought of him. For example, I am repulsed at myself for making excuses for his 3D low vibrational behaviour. I read somewhere that this could also have to do with us now being a vibrational mismatch since reaching inner union.

Anyway, just curious if anyone else who has reached inner union has gone through something similar?

Have you been to that point of finally getting rid of the fantasy? Actually throwing away the items,
Deleting the photos, blocking. I’m there and it’s so scary. How does life move forward from there? When the fantasy wears off, when all hope is gone of union , how do you continue to make sense of life without them? having a DM that uses porn and instagram models as his distraction is the most brutal painful thing. I know it means we need to heal ourselves but seeing him for who he is now and not this magical version that was working on himself and towards union is so sad. For six years now I have healed a little, then looked back at his socials and every time I check back he is just disappointing and hurting me. It’s so painful when you get to that rock bottom where you have no other excuse for them anymore. They show you exactly who they are and I have to decide I won’t tolerate this pain any longer. I just don’t understand how you move forward without them. I’ve officially given up hope. Seeing he isn’t do anything at all to make changes is just so painful. Do you just block them on all platforms and live for eternity wondering what the hell this was? Wondering why this happened? I’ve spent 6 years on a journey that made sense until now. I feel nothing but anger and disgust. Like I’ve been in a delusion…I don’t see the love in them picking other woman over and over. The pain is unreal

If it didn’t happen exactly as it did, I wouldn’t have believed twin flames were real. The story I’m about to tell you, I assert to be truthful to the best of my ability to articulate it. The full breadth of this story would be too much for a post but I’ll do my best to summarize it.

I met a being whom’s appearance resonates exactly with how the bible describes angels about 4 years ago. A being of light with eyes all over its body. I didn’t know about the angels until long after this experience when I started talking about it and showing people the picture I made of what it looked like. That’s when people started asking me about the biblical angels. Finding out that correlation kinda blew my mind. and yes it did in fact tell me specific information about a future event that I literally watched play out in real life 2 years later. And this is why I started talking about it.

Its appearance also resonates exactly with how mathematics says that a 4D object or being would be like making an appearance in a 3D world. I came across this as I desperately searched for answers to ground it all.

But I recognized this being as ME if I weren’t trapped in a body. I didn’t put the word to it at the time but it was my own soul. It was in the shape of an octopus with seemingly infinite tentacles and all the suction cups were eyes. It communicated by changing shape and playing a game of charades. It told me a story. I watched it play out in real life two years later.

A year after meeting that being is when I met my twin flame. I recognized them almost immediately but I couldn’t quite put my finger on how I recognized them. I couldn’t articulate it. In hindsight, what I recognized about them literally is what the soul is… But that feeling of familiarity kept getting stronger and stronger as we interacted. And around the same time her and I met, the word “twin flame kept appearing around me everywhere. I didn’t know what it meant at first but I kept hearing it over and over. Then I was telling one of my friends about meeting this person whom felt familiar, like I recognized them, it felt intense and there was this physical magnetic sensation I’d feel in my body with her presence. I described all these things many times out loud to many people. And one of my friends said “it sounds like you just met your twin flame” and I’m like “there’s that word again” so I looked it up. Google said twin flames are two people who share the same soul. And all those other words I’d already been saying out loud were right there in the search too. Familiar, magnetic, recognition, intense, Déjà vu, etc.

And that’s when things started to click. In the following days, I would get what I can only describe as “visions”. Like waking day dreams but the nature of them weren’t typical to my normal thoughts. Very visual but the imagery was a little more cartoon like. And I felt as if they were inserted in my head rather than generated. But the visions themselves also felt familiar, like memories. But not if anything I’ve experienced. I even told her about some of these visions out loud in great detail. And I even said “I think they’re memories from a past life with you” and this is when she started looking at me like I’m crazy. While simultaneously being the moment of soul recognition which they say is when the separation begins on the twin flames journey. Mind you, I knew NOTHING at the time.

About 8 months after we separated, I found another human being whom specifically reminded me of my twin flame in a particular moment. And so I spoke to them. And they ended up telling me to go to a conference

I didn’t give enough details about meeting my soul outside of my body to dive into the specifics here. But basically at this conference is where the thing happened that my soul told me about years prior. And I only got there as a direct result of meeting my twin flame

As a direct result of interacting with that moment (because holy shit I’ve seen this before) is directly what led me to the place in life where the visions that I got when I met my twin flame also ended up playing out in real life. Like Déjà vu. I’m living those visions now.

How do you get off the twin flame dance? Especially when you, as a woman, as a young woman started out as a Runner and then years later after him running after you for so long, it shifted, and he started becoming the Runner and therefore you end up becoming the Chaser?
Even if you didn't ever want to BE the Chaser?
How do you how does the Feminine, and I'm not saying we always stay in those roles because ironically he acted like the Feminine in the beginning years and then I inadvertently became the Feminine when he started acting >!like!< the Masculine, the masculine being the Runner.
How does the Feminine find dignity and restore her peace with the dance, the twin flame dance?
How exactly do you finally get off the merry-go-round? I’m tired 😪😩

I've told him about it but I don't think he believes it or believes in me. I don't even know whether he wants to see me but since we've been chatting for so long (for three months) with no end in sight and ever since I found out he was my twin flame I have had this undying urge to see him in person, and finally know what it feels like to meet him and hear his voice even if it isn't romantically. Again I see him as my twin flame - I don't have the urge to fly to a city even if it is in the other side of the world just to hook up with someone. I don't know how to tell my parents, and I don't know how I am going to save up for the next few months, but all I know is I am going to see him sometime between the 1st and 26th of September. Has anyone gone and flown to another city/country just to be with their twin flames, even if the feelings were closed off and not necessarily reciprocated? I feel like with my current life I'm not good at making decisions but there is no other option but for me to do this and I am willing to put everything aside including my university studies, if temporarily for a whole month, on hold so I can finally make use of this energy. I don't care if I travel all the miles only to have him say in person that we can't be together. I just know I can't hold it in any longer if I must surrender, and I have to do this.

Do not continue on if you are not extremely curious or have not surrendered to God/the universe/divine timing. This could completely shatter how you look at things, if you are not ready to give it up. It shook me up for an entire day when I learned it, and I was surrendered.

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I had the realization that romance is an illusion, unique to the 3D, unique to earth. It is an attempt to make us understand unconditional love, the concept of oneness, but was constricted by the fact that "merging" does not truly exist in the 3D. The next best substitute: sex, a hug, a kiss. We called it romance, and the people hijacking this 3D program then polluted it (casual hook ups, situationships, power dynamics, superficial attraction, etc) to make us frazzled and lower our vibration when the mismatched person we were with made us anxious, sad, or feel abandoned. When both merging and sex are intended to be with someone who is the same frequency as you. For those of us here, it is our twin flame (but could be a soulmate secondarily).

Now, I dont quite know where this ends. Like are we really only supposed to merge with just one person? Why wouldnt we merge with more people as they match us? Is sex/merging with a twin flame just supposed to be a "sample"? I need more reflection to understand, or maybe someone else here has already thought about this.

And furthermore, I think we desire things like sex, having kids via canal birth, and (for some of us) death, because those are event points of oneness. We go through life seeking oneness, when the greatest form of it is within ourselves and with God.

Hello guys, i am slightly confused about my experience. Maybe someone felt the same way in your journey. I am female and I am avoiding my twin flame. We work together. And every time he comes close to me I feel really anxious and I basically can't handle his energy. I don't hide from him because I can't but any contact is overwhelming. I even thought about quitting the job (other reasons as well) but the thought of never seeing him again gives me peace (sounds so mean I am sorry). It's confusing because I like seeing him and sometimes I think about him and what he is doing etc. but it disrupts my peace, my nervous system even. And I don't like to feel so anxious, it's new for me. It's confusing. I kind of want contact but it's complicated and even the slightest contact is too much. It feels very chaotic for me and there is an urge to avoid him.

I havent been in contact with my TF ( male) for two years and I havent really felt much from their end all this while. Nor did they reach out ever. But since the last few days, I know for a fact that this person is missing me. There is no rationale, no logical explanation to this. I just know that he misses me. I FEEL IT IN MY BONES!!

Is this normal? Is the collective energy like that or what is it? Why suddenly now?

My twin flame and I are currently in no contact, and it's been a few months now. From what I can tell, they seem to be struggling with a deep depression. Before that, though, they had become deeply involved in Satanism, demonology, and black magic.

Everything I've read about twin flames says they're here to help heal the collective, but my twin seems to be on a path of self-destruction instead : ( They seem to hate everyone and themselves, and watching it unfold has been heartbreaking. I don't know what to do. It's hard to not want to reach out to them.

I saw a post where a guy was asking a relationship advice and i posted my opinion too. Later, we connected on message and i asked him a question regarding the post and he said because "i can't see my girl sad so i wished to do that instead..." and i was like wow such a green flag can't see his girl sad, and i wish i also had a bf like him and stuff running in my mind.

So the convo ended and he started asking questions and we had good discussion out of the box, more about spiritual and life, he was 5 years elder than me (and fyi i am 23) later after discussion he said i love u... i was shooked, i was like bro then he said i like ur thoughts so i said it in that way (ughh) i was like ohkay.

Then.... this wasn't the end he started saying me baby babe and said u are a kiddo 😏 huh and i was like dude wait a sec... u have a gf ( i reminded him) u are flirting and i can't continue this knowing u are in relationship i steped back.

Later, he texted it's complicated u don't know it and stuff, she don't even love me, it'slong distance too.... u have ruined my mood... and i was like what's the point of ur relationship? And why are u thinking and posting syuff about it?

His post was about his gf, later we also discussed about it and he loves her, can't see her sad still flirting with others ?

My love... I can always feel your deep love for me through your sincerity and playfulness. I know it all too. You are a sincere person with a deep heart, and I am always grateful that you cherish me so much. I am sorry for making you feel a little anxious. But you remain the only one for me, always unchanging. I once told you that my puppy love wasn't love at all. You are my true first love and my last love. I am absolutely unshaken by any obstacles or interference. I am a woman who has lived according to my convictions with the resolve to die for them. My beloved, please do not feel anxious in the slightest. You and I have many differences, but we also have many similarities. That is, we are much deeper, more considerate, and very clever than others. You know that well, don't you? ^^ The invisible bond between you and me is immense. Of course, our background is the mighty God, so what is there to worry about? We will build many heartwarming good things and happy memories together in the future. Let's make sure we live well. I love you, good night, my love CUTE GUY💓🍒🫠❤️‍🔥

I’ve experienced a love so real, so pure, so scary. That it’s hard to even comprehend, to even face myself.

It blew up in my face in a backwards way. And I was inevitably rejected as a projection of my inner self….

And so I resigned myself to life’s shallow ventures and endeavours, feeling that if I couldn’t have what I wanted… that I would get what I wanted in a cheap fashion. Cheap. Because that is what it is. It’s cheap ultimately in comparison. I could have all the money in the world and it wouldn’t be meaningful without the special person to share and experience life with.

I’ve felt something so real, so earth and reality shattering…. I feel like a part of my soul will never be the same again.

And in this reality… it just makes me seem crazy as all heck, yet it is my truth. My twin may even think I am crazy - or maybe they know. I’m not and won’t ever try to force anything. I fear I am suffering on my own all the while just trying to move on and grow as an individual.

I’ve been trying to run from it because my twin wasn’t co-operating and was flat out being misleading/hurtful in the 3D… I tried to reject my twin, but they keep coming back in ways like my dreams and through symbolism and whenever I’ve reached a higher level of being/a lesson. They are an undeniable presence in my life.

I apologized for accidentally activating my twin (DM runner in bad relationship). The apology wasn't from a place of "please come back" or "notice me". It hurt me to hurt her, even if I didn't mean to.

I texted her the apology and immediately felt lighter. Like.. joyous, almost. She didn't respond and hasn't (can't afford to either, given the nature of her relationship, even though it's on its last legs from what I feel). But still.. I started sleeping better and everything lol.

I see angel numbers constantly but right after I apologized, 111 started appearing everywhere. EVERYWHERE. I've been doing outer and inner work, identifying my patterns and wounds, and ultimately living. She's embedded in me though. This feeling comes with the territory now. The 111 could be anything.. even something not related to her. I just get the feeling that we're closer to union now.

Something curious happened—and no, it wasn't a coincidence. The odds against this happening are astronomical—like one in a million—yet it kept happening.

It all comes down to the weather—specifically, the rain. The very first time I met my Twin Flame—on my way to our first date—I got caught in the rain. Since I ride a motorcycle, it was particularly noticeable for me. Fair enough; that happens. We made a habit of seeing each other on weekends, and the second time we met, it rained again. And the third time? Rain. I even used to joke with her that it was a sign of destiny; we’d laugh about it... haha.

But the funny thing is, we spent six months together, and by the fourth time this happened, I started finding it strange. Because it was *always* happening—either when I was on my way to see her or when I was leaving her place to head home. It would always rain along the way—the fifth time, the sixth, the seventh... Eventually, I stopped counting, but I just *knew* it was going to rain at some point before or after seeing her. It’s truly inexplicable. For six months, it rained—not a heavy downpour or a storm forecast, just rain or a light drizzle—right where I was, at the exact moment I was passing through.

After a while, we broke up; we realized things wouldn't work out for us as a couple at that stage of our lives. That was fine, but then came "Part 2."

Now, the rain didn't happen just before or after we met—which, statistically speaking, was already a massive coincidence. This time—not every single time, but *often*—whenever I paused during my day to take a breath and reflect on this whole "union" process, thinking about her... RAIN. And again, it wasn't a storm or bad weather. It was simply a localized rain shower right at *my house*. And then it would stop right after. And this hasn't happened just once or twice; it happens every single time I have a moment where I'm thinking about her.

It sounds crazy. If I told anyone about this, no one would believe me. But it’s real—in fact, it rained just before I wrote this post, and I’m writing this precisely because I was thinking about her. Crazy, right?

I’m looking for answers and want to know if anyone else here has gone through something similar, and what it means. Because there is absolutely NO way it’s a coincidence.

We have been apart for almost 2 years; he moved on, had a kid, and is now engaged. When we broke up, he blocked me. I thought things might have changed when he started following me back in March and was liking my photos. But then something happened.. My kiddo decided to send a group chat to everyone in my friends list including him. I messaged him and apologized and he responded back and was positive about it. Then out of the blue he unfollowed my Instagram and blocked me again. Feeling right back to how things were in the beginning.

I have such a strong urge to reach out to him...we've been no contact for 7 months, I broke no contact and said HBD, since we share birthdays. He said he forgot, but still said HBD.

And now. I can't stop thinking about him.

I wanna reach out to try and rekindle. If he went no contact do I have to just wait til he chooses to reach out first?

Thanks! I definitely want to begin serious dating and get married. In navigating past a connection that hasn't produced marriage- for those that went on to marry someone else happily, what is your advice? also, how did you navigate this all. did you post on social media about the engagement? how did the first few dates feel when you found your spouse? I'm so interested to know please feel free to leave a comment esp. if you are happily married to someone else other than your twin :)

I have been focusing on myself for the past few months and lately I don't feel the emotional intensity toward my twin flame like I used to. I still care deeply but the constant longing and anxiety have faded.

Part of me feels peaceful, but another part wonders if I've simply shut my emotions down without realizing it.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you tell the difference between genuine healing and emotional detachment?

This is my first post ever, but I’m trying to make sense of my current relationship. This may be long.. I’m fairly convinced my boyfriend is my twin flame. Honestly, we’re both pretty convinced about it. We met years ago through my ex-husband…. very long story. When we met we both said we felt as though we knew each other…not physically but in a sort of spiritual way….there was this unbelievable pull towards one another. We never spoke of it for years, but every time we would see each other it lingered in the background…I thought it was only me…but I’ve found out now it was the both of us. Throughout the years (10 years..) we have always felt that pull but we were married, we had children, we had lives we had built… we were in the same friend group… we never could and never did anything about this feeling. We stayed absolutely platonic and even though we felt as though the other was our “best friend” we realized it just could never be… we just sort of accepted that it was a feeling that would never be resolved…it would sit in the background noise forever. However, then a shift happened.. I was in an abusive marriage and he was as well, but we both hid our lives from the outside world. It wasn’t until our marriages were truly failing.. like no turning back failing before the truth came out. I won’t go into details much, but the idea of us was brought to the surface as well as the reality of our connection. Although it was now out in the open staring us dead in the face, we still tried to make our marriages work. We did the marriage therapy, we swallowed our feelings, we sat in our pain. And of course, the marriages failed anyways…they were already too far gone. The anger the resentment the pain our spouses had caused through years of abuse and neglect…what is there to save? And my current boyfriend and I were in love…we always had been…we just never said it….there was a door…a door out of abuse…a door open to a best friend… So…anyways, I left my husband first. He became so erratic and abusive at the end I had to escape with my son. He then learned of mine and my current boyfriend’s feelings, and I took that as a sign from the universe there was no turning back. I’m not proud of how I escaped. In fact I struggle with it every day…. I didn’t follow my morals, I hurt people, but I was so vulnerable and so empty…numb to everything in the world….when the person you promised your life to, who promised to honor and protect you destroys you to the point where you’re thinking some very dark thoughts about your existence mattering anymore…when a beautiful door opens to safety…you have to take it…even if it’s not the most moral door. If you’ve ever been abused…you understand that sometimes the way out isn’t the way you would take in any other circumstance.. but it is one you will in desperation for escape. I accept my part in the pain I caused, I accept it. I own it. I struggle with it still, I’ve spoken to my therapist about it, she helps me work through it…through my shame, the abuse, the escape.. but I cannot say I in any way truly regret it. During this time my boyfriend was also in the movements of leaving. I remember us discussing being twin flames and I looked him in the eyes and told him he would be the runner. He looked shocked and responded, “What?! No I won’t.” And I just smirked at him…I knew for some reason in my heart, in my soul that he would be. It sounds so strange, but I FELT it… And sure enough he was. There was a time in his leaving that he stopped speaking to me. He called me sobbing, said he had some things he had to figure out, that we couldn’t speak anymore until he did. Separation from him felt like death. It was soul crushing. I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, I felt like a part of me was gone…truly gone, like cut directly from my spirit. I did so much research on twin flame separation and how it happens so each of you can work on yourselves, truly face all of your own flaws and your own issues and become better…that there may be union or there may be permanent separation but either way it is a time to look at yourself and heal and grow. I took that time to do that. I became more myself than I had been since I was a child. I truly began healing…He did too….and eventually we were finally united. This is where I am perplexed by our relationship. He is more me and I more him than I can explain. We literally read each other’s minds. I will be thinking of something that doesn’t even relate to the conversation we’re having and he will bring it up. We’ve started going, “Get out of my brain!” In a joking way. It’s not once in a while, it is ALL OF THE TIME. Most of our days we just know what is going on in the other one’s head. We say phrases at the same time, think of the same places for food, think of the same subjects at the same time, quote things at the same time…we write poems to one another and even if we haven’t done it in awhile, we will both come come, same day with one for the other. We are so in tune that it’s almost bizarre. Even the way we show frustration is exactly the same, the way we resolve any issue is the same. We work together through our traumas and past experiences together as a team.. It is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. When we ahem…unite….It is mind blowing…as if we just want to absorb into each other. Being together… It’s as though the universe took a deep breath, sighed, and said “Finally, this was the plan all along.” I have never experienced anything that has felt so…”meant to be” in my entirety of living. We look back on our separation and we both agree it was needed to grow and heal before we came together…it’s a deep understanding of the need to heal. I truly feel as though I am with my very best friend, the one I’ve known in lifetimes before this one, the one my soul has been looking for… Does this sound like twin flame or is this something else entirely? I’d be interested to know!

Even after years of separation?

Genuinely curious