Tired of parents constantly asking about each other's lives decades post divorce
Hi everyone,
My parents divorced over twenty years ago, when I was a young adult. The divorce was acrimonious and they do not have a relationship of any kind (my mom would be willing, but dad refuses). They are cordial at big events like weddings, but will not see each other or speak otherwise.
What really drives me nuts is how curious they are about each other. Every time I see either of them, they want to know details about each other's lives. Not to re-litigate anything - just nosiness. My mom for example will ask what time my dad eats dinner, what kind of food he eats, what friends he still keeps in touch with, what hobbies he has, etc. My dad is slightly less curious but will still ask stuff, and my stepmom is about as curious as my mom, always wanting to know what her life is like.
It's hard to express why I find this so annoying, since they aren't badmouthing each other. I just don't want to go over the details of their lives constantly with another person. Like, if you're so curious, give them a call!
Does anyone else experience this, and do you find it as irritating as I do? Just wanting to commiserate a little. Thank you!