When is it appropriate to ask about health history? And how best to approach?
I (M29) and dating a woman (24) I met on CM. We have been on 4 dates thus far and things are going good - have plans for more.
We are both dating very intentionally and hope to get married in the next few years (irrespective of one another at this point). Since we are dating seriously, I intend to ask her to be my girlfriend soon.
My question is when is it appropriate to ask questions about substance use or history of potential mental health issues? And how best to do it?
For context: on our second date, we were traveling by subway and sitting next to each other. She reached into her purse for a piece of gum and I looked and saw a pill sheet for what I assume to be birth control. Now on CM, the app allows the option to pick if you agree with the churches teachings on contraception - she does agree according to the app. It’s possible that she takes the pill, but perhaps it wasn’t that. That got me then thinking if it’s not birth control then maybe it is some sort of SSRI or anxiety/depression or some other mental health drug?
Before getting into a relationship with someone, I would like them to be off of birth control and ideally any medication. Additionally, if they have a history of something relating to mental health or contraception I think it’s reasonable to want to know about it before committing to one another.
Any suggestions or help anyone can help me navigate? How to best approach?