How to support after rehab?
This is about my 20 year old son who is an opioid addict. Since it's not alcohol, if there's a better place to post this please let me know.
He's been struggling since high school. Myself and the rest of his family have known for about a year and a half. We've been enabling and rug sweeping. Wanting to believe his lies, feeling sorry for him etc.
About a month ago it all came to a head. He got pulled over and arrested while under the influence and with substances in the car. He's facing some serious charges. He got bailed out under the condition that he go straight to rehab. He's been there for 3 weeks and seems to be doing well.
My question is, what do we do next? He was living with my mom but I don't think it's a good idea for him to go back there. His dad won't let him go to his house, and I have a younger child so my house is not an option right now. There's a couple of sober living houses in town that I feel might be the best option, but I just don't know.
The sober living place wants money up front. We are financially strained at this point and he's got to have a job, but how quickly can that happen? Plus if he gets set up with a place to live and a job and then goes to court next month, he might still be going to jail.
My head is spinning. He needs therapy, meetings etc. Should all of this be his responsibility and I just stay out of it? I want to support, but also allow him to be an adult, responsible for himself.
Any advice or insight is appreciated