I [36M] feel mislead and used by my partner [32F] after she moved in
My partner has moved in over a year now and the relationship has shifted to the point where most responsibilities have fallen on me.
Before she moved, we sat down and talked about how we handle bills, chores and other responsibilities. Basically, we agree on 50/50 on everything but bills because she earns less than me, which we both felt was fair.
2 months in, she lost her job because funding wasn't available and she knew this might happen before moving in but thought she would take a gamble because it would work out for her, I didn't know anything about this. Lucky she had a new job a month later but she couldn't afford to help with bills, which didn't make sense because she had a few more hours.
Then, not so long after this, she was too tired to help around the house with chores, so all that fell on me and this lasted for months.
When I talked to her about all this stuff and asked if she could help in anyway, she basically said that it can't be help because she is struggling and with the money situation she said "we both knew it was going to end up this way, just got blindside by it a little bit" it felt devastating to hear this.
The last 6 months, she has been pointing out my faults as a partner and that I'm not emotionally supporting her enough as a partner and not spending enough time with her but it's hard to find a balance because her friends are around a lot and I need time to myself just to decompress and tune out the world and I might get a day a week to do that.
Also recently I found out that she has a debt that is taking a big chunk of her wages and she is getting her hours drop, so her financies will be in a bad place and she has no plan to get another job.
So I honestly was should I do as a partner.