Am I undatable?
Hi. So I don’t really feel comfortable sharing this with a lot of people, I have with some close friends and they also can’t make sense of it, so I was hoping I would hear from you guys.
I (27M) have never been good at socializing, and therefore never actually had a partner or even been on a date. I would say I’m average looking, but I am on the shorter side (165cm). I am very well educated, funny, and generally a good time to be around if I say so myself. But the idea of approaching people, especially romantically, has always been a challenge for me.
Last year, I decided to give dating apps a chance. I have accounts on almost all the popular apps. I have never been the most confident person, but I must say the dating apps have damaged my self-esteem more than I ever thought was possible, because I am failing to get even a single like! A lot of people complain about not enough matches, or not enough compatibility in their matches, but I don’t even get to that stage. Anyone I tell this to seems to be dumbfounded by it, and I personally don’t understand it either. I have tried restructuring my profiles with different photos and prompts multiple times, but no use.
I know many of you might say “just go up to people and approach them,” and I am trying, but honestly at this point in my life I am very worried that I am just undatable. From what I see in other people, dating apps tend to make that easier for them, but for me it has honestly just made me more insecure and demotivated.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? I would appreciate any input.