Sometimes it's the little things that remind me I made the right choice for me
It doesn't always have to be witnessing an abusive situation or anything extreme. It can be the little things.
I recently hung out with a friend I hadn't seen in a long time and got to meet her baby girl for the first time. For context, I'm also friendly with her husband. We planned to spend the day together to catch up while her partner watched the baby. Credit where credit is due: this was not treated as an inconvenience for him. Just him doing his job as a parent. Great.
I pick her up, and we start our hangout. About an hour in, she suddenly looks panicked and starts texting. I ask her what's up.
"I forgot to let him know where I put the baby's milk."
"Wouldn't it be in the fridge?"
"Yes, but he doesn't know *where* in the fridge."
I blinked. Does the man not have eyes? Or the ability to spend a couple seconds looking for it?
She laughs and waves it off. She tells me that he gets "husband brain" and sometimes he doesn't see something even when it's right in front of him.
Fucking *what*? I kept my mouth shut and didn't press it any further.
Throughout the rest of the day, she had to stop to text him or answer a text from him. Don't forget to put the laundry in. Here is where we keep the detergent. Her nap time is at 3. Don't forget to eat. Here, I'll order you some Uber eats...
We still had a nice time but my god, I'd go insane if I had to constantly worry about my partner taking care of himself. Was he never taught self-sufficiency? Why is that her job?