Ancestral Genome: Hindu Gujarati Brahmin ( Shirmali Brahmin and Saraswat)
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 2 days ago
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2 Indian beauties lost to misogyny and dowry
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 2 days ago
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Why are Indian women so obsessed with having sons over daughters ?
So I see this trend a lot ( both online, in real life) all the Indian women that I know would rather have sons over daughters and I honestly find this super problematic.
I’ve noticed this trend a lot both online and in real life, where many South Asian/Indian women openly say they’d prefer having sons over daughters, and honestly I think it’s something we should talk about more critically.
I understand that these beliefs don’t come from nowhere. A lot of women grew up in deeply patriarchal environments where sons were treated as more valuable because of carrying the family name, staying with the parents after marriage, providing financially, etc. Meanwhile daughters were often raised with stricter expectations and seen as temporary members of the family. So I understand how internalized misogyny and cultural conditioning play a role.
But at the same time, I don’t think that means we should just normalize or excuse it. It can genuinely affect girls growing up hearing things like “sons are easier,” “sons are better,” or seeing mothers clearly favor boys. Daughters notice these things, even subtly. It reinforces the idea that girls are burdens, difficult, or somehow less desirable.
And honestly, if societies continue heavily valuing sons over daughters, eventually you create a serious gender imbalance. We’ve already seen the effects of this in certain places through skewed sex ratios and discrimination against girls. You can’t constantly devalue daughters while expecting healthy communities long term. In a broader sense, if people collectively act like girls are unwanted, what message does that send about the future of women in that society?
What also bothers me is how this conversation sometimes turns into people villainizing brown women specifically, as if Indian women are uniquely misogynistic mothers, when patriarchal son preference has existed in many cultures historically. I think it’s fair to criticize the mindset without turning it into another stereotype about South Asian women.
I guess my overall point is: yes, son preference in our communities is real and harmful, but I think it should be discussed as a larger cultural/patriarchal issue rather than reducing it to “brown women hate women.” A lot of the same women perpetuating these ideas were also hurt by them.
I know this cousin ( grew up here and is a doctor herself and had an abortion because the gender of the baby was female) and she does not want a daughter.
Why is there so much hate for Indian women ?
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 2 days ago
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This Desi Guy is speaking facts: Watch the tiktok please ( he is an ally)
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 5 days ago
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Kristin Kreuk in Partition (playing the role of a Pakistani girl Naseem Khan)
What are ya'lls opinions lol ? This movie was made in 2007. Why can't people hire desi girls to play desi girls ? Like in what world does Kristin Kreuk pass as Indian or Pakistani ?
This would never fly today lol
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 8 days ago
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The 4B movement appears to be more and more appealing with each passing day. Watch the video please ( from tiktok).
Am I the only girl that is not attracted to men that are mean to me? Like what is up with these pop the balloon videos. Now the brown community is also doing the same thing ?
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8pUYd85/
Like what is wrong with men seriously? And why do brown girls even come onto shows like this ? To embarrass themselves?
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 8 days ago
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So I have always been in love with watching animae and I also love everything Kawaii ( Hello Kitty, Cute stationery, Sanrio, building miniatures and all that IYNYK). I have found in my experience that brown guys when they find this out about me, are super judgmental and even mean about it. Like my ex-boyfriend thought it was so childish for me to like these things at 32 years old ( but what can I do, these kawaii things bring me so much joy and happiness). Even my own father berates me for liking Hello Kitty and Sanrio and all that. That same ex boyfriend berated me for being obsessed with my pets ( I have 2 cats and 1 dog) and said I need to be less focused on these childish things and focus on adult stuff ? IDK that relationship never lasted anyways but it hurt me when he said that.
Non-Brown guys I have dated love this about me and think its quirky and cool that I like Kawaii and animae and I dress up my pets sometimes lol . I even got some of them into animae and all that. Non brown guys are so much nicer when it comes to women having alternative or quirky and childish interests compared to brown men?
IDK maybe I have yet to meet a like-minded brown guy who won't judge me for liking these "childish things" but what has your experience been?
u/Loud_Maintenance7170 — 18 days ago