For example, if the avoidant feels they're growing attached, while their partner doesn't do anything in particular or anything different...
The woman I was dating is one of the most confident people I know, both professionally and socially. The only potential sign of shame that I can pick up is her very active social media presence, which I interpret as her needing constant validation, but being active online is also not uncommon these days.
Despite her confidence and usual directness, she could not have even a single emotionally honest conversation with me.
Made me wonder about what is said about avoidants and shame. Any insights are appreciated.