u/Lucas12

Reconnected with a girl from the past and the date ended incredibly awkwardly - not sure how to take it from here

Some backstory here - I met this girl 2.5 years ago and this was before I knew any of Corey's material. We were late 20's then and now we are early 30's. We went on two dates and they were some of the best dates I've ever had. We got along super well. At the end of the second date I went to kiss her and it was kind of awkward but still happened. She texted me after and said she kind of panicked and apologized for it being awkward. After that, she went away for work for a few months and I let it go. After she came back, I texted her again and she told me she got a new job and would be moving away but we still went out and got a drink and it was definitely the best date I've ever had. She was incredibly touchy during the date and afterwards we were making out on the side of the road before going our separate ways. Afterwards I started acting incredibly needy and not wanting to let her go despite her moving far away. She told me she didn't want anything long distance and I didn't want to accept that so she just started ignoring me. Once I got out of that funk I was so disgusted with how I acted and thats what led to me finding Corey's work.

Fast forward 2 years later and now she moved back to my city. I texted her after not talking for 2 years and she said she would be down to grab a drink. We met up 2 nights ago and I thought it went incredibly well. No touching on either of our part but she was leaning in a lot, showing me a lot of pictures on her phone, lots of eye contact, smiling, and laughing so I thought she was at least into me some as well.

I had to park a bit away from the place and she had to walk the same direction as well so as we were walking back at the end of the date, I wanted to hold her hand but she kept holding her hands up and fidgeting with her necklace so I wasn't able to. As we got to the end and were saying goodbye, I went to kiss her and she went for the hug so that was a little awkward. She made a comment acknowledging the awkwardness which I interpreted (clearly wrongly) as go for it again. She pulled back again and it was so uncomfortable and she just said I'm gonna go home now so I just said ok see ya and turned around and left. I'm not sure if maybe she has walls up because of how I acted 2 years ago or if there's something else going on, or if she just wasn't that interested. I'm also a little afraid now that she now has the impression that I don't respect boundaries which just isn't true. I just misread things in this instance.

I know some people will say to let her go but I genuinely had a good time up until the end and would like to see her again. I haven't texted her since and she hasn't texted me. I was hoping she would text me after but that hasn't happened. I'm just not sure how to take it from here - do I wait for her? Do I text her to try and smooth things over and say I still had a good time (I sort of think this might fall into illusion of action territory)? Do I wait several days and not mention it and try and set up a new date? The only wrinkle is she's traveling some and has people visiting and won't be available again for about 3 weeks. Maybe I just wait 3 weeks and try to set something up when she's available but again, I'm just not sure. I do plan on trying to meet new people in the mean time. Thanks to anyone who helps out.

Tl;dr reconnected with a girl from 2 years ago after I previously acted needy and have now found CW's work. Date seemed to go well but tried to kiss twice at the end of the date and got rejected both times. Want to see her again but not sure how to handle it.

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u/Lucas12 — 6 days ago