u/Lucky_616

Trying to gauge interest from the community if folks would be interested in a curated floral arrangement class led by a professional floral designer in the park? It would be an experience based event/activity with all materials prepared.

Aiming for early August :)

UPDATE: here’s the link to the event that I was too shy to share in the original post. It will be my first paid event ever but I really hope to bring our community a memorable experience!

Santai in the Park (a flower bouquet arrangement class) https://www.eventbrite.com/e/santai-in-the-park-a-flower-bouquet-arrangement-class-tickets-1993237421785?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=wsa&aff=ebdsshwebmobile

Still working on building my socials in ig @santai.nyc

Would you accept a man who is a liar?

Haven’t met someone I really liked in awhile, I’ve had about 4 serious relationships in my life - this one included. Last year, I met my most recent ex boyfriend. Charming, sweet, obsessed with me, funny, romantic, successful. He has a loud personality, charismatic, crowd pleaser. Always bragging about his triple gemini (which I actually don’t know what it truly means). I’m a cancer and I protect my heart fiercely, somehow his persistence got to me and we fall in love with each other deeply. He makes me laugh, spoils me, carries my stuff, write me notes, smothers me with kisses, spends loads of quality time with me and is a great boyfriend overall. All I want in life is a partner to laugh, live, and travel with. We made plans to travel for a year next year so I’m really looking forward to that.

However, with the C-PTSD I’ve lived with, trust, consistency and transparency is what’s really important to me. I’ve learnt to judge harshly on my partner’s emotional and personal growth. As a grown man he doesn’t have a routine, has a boyish sense of humor, lifestyle, NEVER needs alone time to recharge, his “values” doesn’t aligned with his actions/lifestyle, braggy/constantly speak on rounding errors and lowkey has messy friends. I can see the good influence I’ve been on him, he’s becoming a more solid man. But I’ve noticed how drained I am around him. He doesn’t ever needs time to himself while I do a lot, and especially after I’ve been traveling and hosting various visiting friends back to back for 3 weeks. I didn’t want to have sex with him last week and in my overwhelm mentioned opening up our relationship which he adamantly said no every time it’s been brought up. But last weekend, after leaving my place and spending the full day with my friends, he drunkenly wrote me a long sappy text about how much he loves and want me, but how distant he feels and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Hes been pouty all weekend because of the fight and Ive been doing my best to console him. Little did I know, that same night, he texted his ex hookup bc we ran into her earlier that day. Which I later also found out he downloaded hinge that same hour. He did all this at 4am - the sappy text, ex hookup, hinge.

I didn’t know about this until 3 days later when I saw his ex hookup lurking on my tiktok profile which I joked with him asking if he hit her up bc i said to open up the relationship. Not knowing it was in fact true. He admitted to it immediately but also said he was just checking to see if she moved to our neighborhood and said he deleted the chat bc she was being emotional. A day later he admitted to downloading hinge.

He’s so sorry and apologetic. He knows I’m the best thing that ever happened to him. I’m grieving the relationship, the future of traveling and living on a farm that we’ve been talking about and all we could be. But also, I don’t want to deal with the repair work that is required in this relationship.

Give me real advice. If you think he man can be forgiven, I want to hear it. If you had enough experience with pigs like these, tell me what happens after this.