Getting called androgynous no matter what?
Before I vent, I want to explicitly state I do not support trans medicalist bullshit. I just need to know if anyone else has dealt with this. Whenever I post photos of myself online or meet other trans people in person, they- specifically nonbinary and transfeminine people- flock to me to tell me they wish they looked like me, that I'm very androgynous, etc. I identify as a man and am 100% binary in my identity and this feels so invalidating. I literally had a trans woman tell me I was gender envy for her. Another trans woman told me after hooking up that I was one of the "good men" because it takes a woman to be a real man.
Why does nobody see a problem with this? I explicitly state that I'm a trans man and yet people assume I'm a transmasc nonbinary person or a he/him lesbian at most. I'm literally sick of it, it makes me so dysphoric I want to rip my skin off.
I hate the way other people perceive me. Am I just doomed to never be seen as a real man?? What's even the point of transitioning and losing my entire family, life, friends, and opportunities, if the community I thought was going to be there to lean back on doesn't even see me as what I am?? This is turning me bitter and hateful and I'm trying so hard to be okay about it but there is genuinely nothing more frustrating than the constant reminder that I'll never be seen as a man, and knowing that the more frequently I have to point this out, the more hostile/conservative people will perceive me.