u/Lumpy-Paramedic0

I feel like I'm losing my potential because of my family

im 23F and recently graduated with a software engineering degree. i thought i'd finally get to chill after uni, but instead im just sitting at home and honestly it's so draining.

i do have an online job that pays around 60–70k/month, so im earning, but my family has always been really problematic. living at home is mentally exhausting and i feel like im losing all my potential because i can't really focus on myself or my career.

im applying for software engineering jobs too, but most of the salaries im seeing are around the same as what im already making online, except i'd also have to spend money on fuel and commuting. it makes me wonder if taking one would even improve my situation.

what worries me the most is that if things stay like this, my family will probably try to marry me off within the next year or two, and honestly im traumatized by marriage. at this point, all i want is some peace in my life, whether that comes from moving out or eventually finding the right partner.

i just feel completely stuck and i genuinely don't know what my next step should be.

has anyone else been in a similar situation?

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u/Lumpy-Paramedic0 — 21 hours ago