u/LumpyOrganization835

My husband (dx) and I will be married for 25 yrs this month. We had sex last night after 3.5 yrs of nothing. We'd had several conversations about it but it got more serious about 2 months ago & we both agreed that's what we wanted but things had gotten awkward after going so long with no intimacy & hardly any affection. But I took the initiative last night. I used to be resentful that i had to initiate 90% of the time but i found out what happens if i don't. We've had a talk about this & have an action plan. We've done a lot of work in 25 yrs & its been very difficult...seemingly impossible at times. But we are committed & despite ADHD symptoms we know that we both love & respect each other. I guess I'm just saying that there is hope!🙂 I don't know where else i can talk about this & people can actually relate & empathize.

My husband and I lived on Kauai for 8 yrs. We moved back to the Midwest 2 yrs ago...mainly because of aging parents & the cost of living. But we miss it every day! I feel like I'm still grieving our home & life there. We are leaving in 2 days to go back for a visit (it'll be our 1st time back). I have such mixed feelings! I miss it so much, it's home to us. And we miss the great friends we made there & are looking forward to seeing them again. But at the same time, I'm absolutely dreading leaving again. I sat & cried in the airport the last time we left & I know its gonna happen again. Its gonna feel like going home...but we can't stay. Does this make sense to anyone else?