u/LumpyWedding8140

Short story : 23M diagnosed with severe aortic regurgitation during a unplanned health checkup a year back , had multiple options with various docs and read multiple papers/posts on them.

As I've managed to cross a ever without surgery after being diagnosed with it, now am in the time to get surgery done, am confused either to go with Ross or mechanical valve

Ive decided to go with mechanical valve as that would outlive me, if am on proper meds and monitoring with precautions.

But the doctor am consulting with advised me to go with ross as am a suitable candidate for it and as per his words, mechanical valve will not be a once at all valve people will definitely need reintervention, which is contradictory to what I read over the internet and i feel most the Indian docs are having similar opinions , why is it so??? And am also fine to go with ross as he's an well expertise with ross procedure too but am hesitant on risking both my valves at some point rather then one

Any thoughts or experiences would really be helpful :)

I[M24] and my gf[F23] met via tinder, and we spoke for a while and we started this as a friendship thing, and figure out how things go and eventually we fell in love without confessing that. Her family is soooo strict that she never hangs out on the weekends or any place even with her friends are allowed, still we met few times on the weekdays as both would take off on the work days and go for movies, shopping and few months back we did makeout on a Airbnb with mutual consent.
Later she told to her mom abt me as she likes me on a naive way nothin much on that.

But unfortunately her brother read her texts on whatsapp and he has seen everything , making it even more worse, he has explained everythin to her mom. That potrayed both of us in a really bad way and I did speak with him and he was askin me to talk to her dad abt this.

Am nowhere progressed in my career and personal life and right now speaking such things to her dad sounds bs, and idk what to do fr.

Need Advice.
PS: her brother also explained that, they're from lower caste and that would be a issue and I need to talk to my parents about it now.I cant say this to ma parents, that'd be totally fucked up :)