Am I the asshole for not inviting a friend to a party and then being mad at another friend?
Just for a little context, I’m 17 female(Sarah )and my friend Lucy 17 female have been friends for about seven years and from day one we have done everything together there was always a little bit of jealousy in our friendship, but we were always still really good friends but Lucy became friends with Kenzie 19 female when they became friends I didn’t know that Kenzie was dating my now boyfriends cousin well a year later they ended up getting married and Kenzie has always liked to start problems with me Lucy and me and my boyfriend well Kenzie her husband me my boyfriend and two other friends that are a couple all go to church together so we have a church friend group. Well, Kenzie would throw little get-together at her house and one of my birthday parties was at her house and she said she did not want to invite Lucy because Lucy causes problems and nobody likes her well so that I said she is one of my best friends and I would really like for her to come and everyone said no we would rather her not come and said that she was not allowed at their house because her husband didn’t like her fast-forward a couple months after this Kenzie and Lucy were hanging out and Lucy asked Kenzie about the parties and Kenzie said well Sarah was the one who said she never wanted you there and that you didn’t fit the vibe so Lucy texted me freaking out cussing me out calling me these horrible names all because I didn’t invite her, but it wasn’t my house and I really did try to get her to be invited. I wasn’t even the one who ever threw these parties. She went on about how much of a terrible friend I was ,that I never make time for her when I do I see her every single day, but she was also talking about just how horrible of a person I am and that I didn’t deserve to be friends with her anyways now me and her have to be separated at work because we cannot work together. Everyone is trying to get me not to be mad at Kenzie for this, but I kind of feel like it is her fault. Me and Lucy might’ve stopped being friends sometime soon anyways, but it didn’t have to end with the name-calling and all this all over a lie, I feel like I do deserve to be a little bit mad at her and everyone wants me to forgive Kenzie because”she didn’t do it on purpose and she’s just a people pleaser “is what everyone saying but I feel like this is the fifth time she’s done this and she should be held accountable so am I the asshole?and what do I do?