u/MaestroBluguy

In norway we dont have rules for graduation, so I decided I wanted to wear a dress (I was assigned male at birth but I'm genderfluid, however my parents dont know I'm gender fluid) my mother laughed at me and my father said he wouldnt come to my graduation if I was in a dress. I then said "fine, I can invite someone else". He then got really mad, saying that I dont care about them, he said " after everything we do, we always support you no matter what". "I can't belive you could ever say something like that to us."

For a bit of context, I was bullied for 10 years, when I came home crying, wanting nothing but to be comforted, they just told me that "no, they aren't bullying you, they are just teasing you, you just have to ignore them and they will stop" and when I came home telling them I had been sexually assukted every day for the past 3 months by my then girlfriend (now ex offcourse) they did not comfort me, they instead told me "No, thats not bad enought to be secual assult" and my father said "If it was me I would have enjoyed it" I WAS 15 FOR FUCKS SAKE, I WOULDNT HAVE ENJOYED IT IF IT WAS CONSENSUAL!

every time they see me with makeup they come with stupid comments (often with racist undertones) my mother saying "you look egyptian" because of winged eyeliner, and "you look like an indian" when I braided my hair on the sides of my head. My father also says the same line every time "you look like you have a black eye" or "you look like you have been punched in the face"

Whenever they accidentally insult me, and I call them out on it, they dont apologise, they say I'm just being sensetive, and that I need to learn to make fun of myself. I am very much able to make fun of myself but its a little different when others do it.

My mother also made a strange comment about my penis size and when I told her it made me uncomfertable she just said "well I'm your mother, I am allowed to say things like that"

She once told me she didnt want to be my mother anymore and I had to convince her to apologize.

To be honest I feel like my parents are just as much bullies as the people they pretend to protect me from. And I dont know what to do, I have so much stuff here and nowhere to go, I dont really want to go to graduation anymore, its an optional event where I am from. The rest of their classmates tried to cheer me on and convince me to come but my confidence is just dead now and I dont know what to do

My best friend befriended my bully and my ex and doesent see any issues with it

I'm so sick of the fools who call themselves my parents