Husband left for basic training and I already feel lost
My husband left for basic training on Monday and I already miss him so much. I know it’s only been 2 days, but we’re together and talk 24/7, so suddenly barely hearing from him feels really strange and honestly emotional for me. I got one really short text and now his phone is off, which I expected, but it still feels hard not knowing when I’ll hear from him again. They also haven’t given his address yet, so I’m just kind of waiting in the dark right now.
This whole experience is really new to me. I wrote him a letter already because it honestly made me feel a little better, but I didn’t tell him how sad I am because I don’t want to stress him out while he’s there. I’m trying to stay positive and support him because I know this is something he’s passionate about and I’m really proud of him.
At the same time, this whole situation has also made me think a lot about my own life. I’m only 20 and I feel kind of lost career-wise. I currently work in mortgages and I honestly feel bored and stuck. Before this, I worked in a nursing home and even went to nursing school for a while, and I felt way more fulfilled working in healthcare. I just struggled balancing full-time work and full-time school and ended up quitting. Now I don’t know what direction I want to go in anymore.
I also don’t really have a strong support system outside of my husband, so not being able to talk to him has been really hard emotionally. I’m trying to use this time to better myself though — cleaning more, cooking, working out, staying productive, and figuring myself out a little more.
Someone also told me they might remove his wisdom teeth during reception week and now I feel so bad for him because I have no idea what he’s doing all day besides processing and training. I know he’s okay, but it’s hard when you’re used to having someone around constantly and then suddenly they’re gone.
He’s National Guard, so eventually he’ll come home after training and maybe in future he will go active, and honestly this is something really good for both of us long term. We want more stability, to eventually buy a house, and stop feeling stuck living paycheck to paycheck in a tiny apartment.
I guess I’m just looking for advice from people who’ve been through this. How long did it take before you adjusted? When did communication start feeling more normal? And what did you do to stay busy and emotionally okay while your partner was at basic? And what I should do about my own career?