I am so tired of everyone gaslighting Deanna.
Yeah, you're right Vanessa is a grown woman who can make her own decisions and date who she wants, but who she wants to date is a dangerous criminal who has even more dangerous enemies. If I was there, I would just tell Deanna to cut her mother out of her life. This is an insurmountable obstacle to me. Sorry, but I can't believe everyone around her is telling Deanna to chill out and begin to accept this.