Could “typical” people manage to handle an ADHD partner?
I recently broke up with my partner (n dx) who was labelled as “borderline” and technically undiagnosed when he was younger. However, he does have medication but his symptoms are fairly strong, and I think they’ve really intensified due to a lack of diagnosis in childhood. He kept getting worse through our relationship and we couldn’t find a way to meet in the middle.
It leads me to wonder what it’d be like if he dated someone else? I recognize that I was codependent and therefore willing to put up with a lot of his bs, but I find it hard to imagine that most people with typical relationship expectations would be willing to put up with it for long, especially now when the idea of red flags leading to instant breakups are prevalent.
Are there certain types of people who may be more predisposed to handling ADHD? When you look at your friends with neurotypical partners, could you envision them handling an ADHD partner? If I told my friends about dealing with what most people here similarly struggle with, they’d see him as an awful person.