How do you cope when you realise/witness people making fun of you?
Recently was doing some work with two other members of a hobby group. I had to step away from them to grab some tools.
I got a few steps away and remembered I needed to take something with me. The others were half turned away from me and didn't realise I had turned back.
They were making fun of my need to be precise in the work we were doing in very unkind terms. Traits that come about due to my audhd and associated baggage - but that I consider useful skills!
It completely threw me - I went to grab the tools, they were unaware of what I witnessed.
It's been a few weeks now and I have withdrawn from the group. I have known them both for almost a decade and although I understand there are a few who bitch about other members, I wasn't prepared for it so blatantly under my nose.
I do enjoy jokes and will tolerate friendly banter directly (although I dislike jokes at the expense of others - especially punching down). This just felt nasty and spiteful and it occurred to me that I am likely the subject of a lot more given how they behaved.
I have seen them both individually (briefly) since and both were quite standoffish and frosty compared to normal.
I know this post might come across as whiny and pathetic, but I struggle so much socially that it's really knocked me. I don't really socialise outside of the hobby group and have invested a lot of effort over the years for the benefit of all our members.
Just not sure what to do now, my nervous system says walk away.