I’m unhappy, so I want a divorce,When everything looks perfect on paper, what are we missing?
I am at the age now where a lot of my mates&work colleagues are getting divorced. For the most part, it seems to come e out of the blue, with the wives stating they are "unhappy."
This has happened to multiple friends and work mates recently. When I chat to the husbands in these situations, they are shocked because they thought they were doing everything right. There was no cheating (so they said In some cases I have no reason not to believe them ), no financial control or abuse, they shared the load with the housework and the kids, they went on family holidays, and by all accounts, the intimacy (so they said I am not in the bedroom and they might think that but the wife might think differently) and quality time were good.
It has made me look inward. As men, we sometimes tend to overlook the emotional side of a relationship and miss subtle signs. Now, I’m looking at my own marriage and wondering if I am missing anything, or if my partner might be harboring an unspoken unhappiness.
My question to the sub is: What causes a partner to become so "unhappy" that they want a divorce, even when their spouse is doing "everything right" on paper? (i.e., no abuse, no infidelity, financial stability, active parenting, staying in shape (not getting overweight), and sharing responsibilities).
If you have been on either side of this scenario, please help me understand the perspective of the partner who leaves. What are the missing pieces to this puzzle?
And if you have ended it because you were merely because you were just bored and "unhappy", was the grass greener on the outside ?
Happy to hear your thoughts.
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