u/ManufacturerPure958

Hey guys.. classic procrastinator here. I had more than one class left to finish last week so I didn’t get an extension in for my “last class” at the end of my term. I didn’t foresee an issue and now of course I have one. My very last class had an assignment come back needing revisions. I spoke with my mentor on Monday about this and he said if it’s one class he would probably be able to get an extension if it needs a revision..

Now he says it’s out of his hands and up to student records.. his manager needs to approve it and so does student records. It’s feeling a little hopeless now. Does anyone have experience with this? Outcomes? I’d have to pay $1k just for this one class 😩

Has this ever happened to anyone?? It was approved fairly quickly. My first time ever being in the USA. I was in Canada about a month ago but I don’t see how that would affect the us. There’s NOTHING that should stop me from being able to come there and all the information is correct.. help… I’m stressing as my trip is on Friday.

I (28F) met a 21M on a dating app—he lives in Belgium and I’m in the US. After talking for about two months (calls almost daily, lots of texting), we decided to meet in person. He flew to Canada and I drove 5 hours across the border, and we’ve been traveling together through Jasper and Banff for 18 days. We’re now on our last night and I’m feeling really confused and would appreciate outside perspective.

For context, I was in a long-term relationship from 18–27 and married for 6 years of that. I’m about a year out from divorce, and this is my first real dating experience since. I’ve realized I’m pretty sensitive to rejection right now and still figuring out how I respond to dating dynamics as an adult.

On paper, everything is great: we have very similar values, we connect really well emotionally, and he’s very kind and thoughtful. We also had a lot of sexual/romantic texting beforehand, so I came into this expecting a pretty passionate, romantic in-person connection.

The issue is that there’s been a significant disconnect physically. He is very slow-paced with intimacy and doesn’t initiate much physical affection (kissing, touching, making out, etc.). We did talk about it partway through the trip when I started feeling rejected/unwanted, and he shared that in his last relationship (~8 months ago) he experienced sexual assault, which I had no idea about. I obviously felt awful for bringing pressure into something sensitive for him.

Since then, I’ve tried to be very mindful and patient, but I’m still struggling because I don’t feel desired. It’s not just about sex—it’s about affection and physical connection overall. We’ve only really made out a couple of times, and I expected more mutual passion/chemistry over an 18-day travel trip together, especially given how things were over text.

When we do have any physical intimacy, I actually do feel attraction and enjoy it a lot. But overall I’m left feeling unsure and a bit disappointed because I don’t feel that “wanted” feeling that’s really important to me in a relationship.

There are other factors too: he’s 21 so there is an age/life stage gap that I’m noticing more in person, and he’s also unsure about wanting kids, whereas I think I do.

I guess I’m just confused because I expected to come out of this feeling more certain about us, and instead I feel more uncertain. I don’t know if this is just early dating discomfort + trauma/slow pacing on his side, or if it’s a genuine compatibility issue around physical affection/sexual energy.

Part of me wonders if I’m being impatient or too focused on “chemistry,” and part of me worries I’m ignoring a legitimate need of mine (feeling desired and physically connected). I’m also aware this is a very compressed, high-intensity situation since we basically lived together/traveled for 18 days right away.

I guess I’m just looking for perspective—am I overthinking this because it’s my first dating experience post-divorce, or is this kind of mismatch in physical affection a real compatibility red flag? And if it’s just “slow burn” vs incompatibility, how do you even tell the difference this early?

Thanks in advance.