Idk what to say or what to do I feel like I'm losing everything.
Hi, I'm Marlboro Red. that person with a shy BF.
My boyfriend left Bangladesh a few weeks ago. The day he left, we had a really nice final date where I made him a cake. Even though he was constantly busy taking calls from friends and family or sorting out banking issues, it was still a sweet date. I gave him a goodbye hug kissed his cheek and said goodbye.
Since landing however his communication has completely changed. He didn't text or call for two full days after landing leaving me sick with anxiety. I ended up deep-stalking him on every platform (Found an old PH account active since 2017 🥲 though that's not the issue I'm just mentioning it to show how deep and hard I stalked). When I found a few suspicious accounts ON IG he admitted one was an ex. I asked him to remove them and add me everywhere I was on and to his credit he did everything I asked without resistance.
The issue is that he refuses to call me. He claims he can't because of his roommate. I even suggested You don't have to talk just listen on the call while we argue so we can hear tone, and text me your answers and he did that too. He says he feels guilty for he hasn't been able to do calls yet despite a 5-hour time gap he only texts me 4–6 brief messages around 4–5 AM before disappearing again. Meanwhile, I'm staying up all night waiting for him, only to watch his following list continuously grow.
I told him directly If you can't continue this relationship, just say the word and I'll leave no questions asked. He won't give a clear answer but he told me I should "reconsider dating him" which hurt deeply. He says he isn't treating me badly intentionally but that I need to think hard about whether I really want to be with him.
I love him and I'm willing to wait a thousand years if it means being together. But I refuse to force myself on someone who doesn't want me. It feels like a completely solvable problem so breaking up over this feels unfair but being kept in the dark without even a phone call is messing with my head really badly. I'm losing my shit! Idk what do I do?