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My mom cooked every meal for my brother until she got sick and then he ate tv dinners for 7 months until she died. Now he's 31 and doesn't know how to cook. My husband and I work, so he's pretty much on his own for breakfast and lunch. And many nights he doesn't want to eat what I cook for dinner.

He's eating bagels, pop tarts, and premade breakfast sandwiches for breakfast, but I'm sure he would like more variety.

He can make sandwiches, air fry chicken tenders, and microwave anything that has directions on the box. He can bake a pizza or lasgana.

He likes processed food but doesn't want to eat another TV dinner ever. He doesn't eat rice or beans and he won't eat vegetables plain. Mom tended to cook southern comfort food.

What are some simple things I can help my brother to cook to improve his diet?

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In case anyone wanted an update.

Monday I pretended I was too busy to train Leah and did not go back to the back office. I just didn't know what the right option was and I figured delaying for one day wouldn't hurt anything.

On Tuesday the boss was back and I went into her office to talk to her. I was very very clear that I did not want to get anyone in any trouble. I just expressed that I felt kind of blindsided and hurt at all the negative statements I had overheard and I felt that if my presence caused so much discord in the back room, that perhaps it would be best if someone else trained Leah. She said it did put her in a bad spot because we're such a small company and she really felt I was the best person to train Leah on her new role, however, she agreed it wasn't a good idea for me to spend a large amount of time in the back room given their recent dislike of me. I specifically asked my boss not to confront anybody, but to simply say I discovered I did not have enough time for both my duties and training.

Apparently my complaint was actually the grain of rice that tipped the scale because my boss held an all company meeting today, all 12 of us. She said that she had noticed a general lack of quality in work and she wanted people to focus on not just getting stuff done, but doing it the right way. She encouraged the newer employees to use older employees as resources whenever they ran into questions. She also said she had experienced a lot of people coming back to her complaining about other people and it needed to stop. She expressed that it was important we all be polite to each other and work well together whether we liked each other or not. And she made it clear that any changes to roles within the company were her decision and her decision alone and she wouldn't hesitate to move anyone to a different position if she thought it was what was best for the company.

My boss did warn me prior to the meeting that when she talked about people complaining to her, she didn't mean me coming to her in this instance. She knows I have anxiety and she didn't want me to feel like I couldn't come talk to her when I have a problem.

So all is solved. I get to come in, do my job, and go home. I no longer have to interact with the backroom girls beyond passing each other incidentally. I have always had headphones, but I've started specifically putting them on when the girls in the back go out to smoke by my window. I don't know if they're still talking about me and quite honestly, I don't want to.

Update to the update: I just got asked to take on a new client. Nice! Guess I'm not getting fired anytime soon.

My manager is on an extended mothers day weekend so I thought I would ask here instead.

I work for a very very small company used to be 9 employees, currently 12. When I was hired my boss emphasized it's like a family here, and I can honestly say I've always felt it. This company has been so great for me.

Last year, we had an employee quit and we had to hire the first new employee since I started. Then we got a new client and hired again. We currently have 4 new employees.

The oldest "new" employee Sarah recently had her work audited and it was discovered that she was performing quite poorly. My boss asked me to work with Sarah whenever I had time to. I worked with her a bit sporadically, but I was working with her and explaining things. I was looking over Sarah's accounts last Friday and I realized they were still pretty terrible, so I asked my boss if I could spend two solid days doing a sort of bootcamp with Sarah to help her improve.

I came into work on Monday and my boss told me a different one of the new girls Leah would be changing roles with Sarah because my boss felt Sarah just wasn't cutting it. She asked me to train Leah and I agreed. I am also kind of the go-to tech person around here. I'm actually not technologically inclined--I'm just the person who switches it off and back on again or tries a different cord--which no one else thinks to do.

This week I have overheard multiple conversations from the 4 "new" girls about how horrible I am. They're complaining amongst themselves. They complained that I created this whole mess by reporting back to my boss that Sarah was performing poorly. They complained that I shouldn't be training Leah because I primarily use a different software for my accounts. They've complained that they don't want me visiting their part of the office and trying to be friendly with them.

I'm simultaneously surprised by the audacity of talking about me so loudly without a care as to if I can hear, and also very hurt. I care so deeply about my job and I have always tried to do my best for the company and every employee. That's why I asked to do a two day bootcamp with Sarah to try to bring her up to speed--I wasn't trying to get her in trouble--I was trying to save her job.

Now going forward, I will try to be more to the point and less friendly when I am in conversation with one of them. I recognize that they are my coworkers, not my friends and they aren't required to be. I just question if I should be in charge of training them if they clearly do not want me back in their part of the office.