Lack of transparency
*context*
Some time ago, partner got hair done and coffee after with hairdress who happens to be coworker. None of that information was relayed and i happen to find out bc they were just talking about their day. Mind you this is after i constantly seen tbe coworker texts keep popping up. This left me uneasy bc weather it was on purpose or not (they didn't think it was important information to tell me), it feels like the trust was being chipped away.
Fast forward to recently, i find something of the coworker in partners car. Partner says they were discussing a mutual topic of interest and nothing more. Again, information partner did not think was relevant to relay. I express same feelings as last time as what they might not think is important information, is. I trust my partner and we are great the rest of the time. But the lack of transparency leaves me wondering what else is not being brought up that should. They dont make me feel bad for expressing these things and says they understand what needs to change. But i fear we will be back here again, and i dont think i can handle a 3rd round of secrecy. Purposefully or not, it feels like secrets being kept