u/MaybeIAmTheCrazy1

I’m a part time student in my early 20s and I make 3k/month. WHAT THE HELL ARE PEOPLE IN MY SITUATION DOING FOR HOUSING?? BRUH. Okay at first I was like I want my own apartment. Looked at some apartments, realized “yeahh those aren’t gonna work for me, too expensive. Looks like I need to get roommates”. I’ve viewed 3 private rooms in houses with roommates, I KEEP GETTING REJECTED DUE TO NOT MAKING ENOUGH MONEY! Okay. I get it. They want you to make 3x the rent, WHY ARE THE ROOMS FUCKING 1200/month???? Also.. I CAN AFFORD 1200/MONTH WHAT DO YOU MEAN I DONT MAKE ENOUGH MONEY? Bro. I’m getting so frustrated. I’m literally homeless and will take ANYTHING I can get but nobody wants my money I guess.

I went to see a room yesterday and the guy was like “did you bring your paystubs” I did, I proceeded to take them out. He’s like “Yeah that simply isn’t enough because you have to pay utilities and in total, that could run you 1,400 a month including the rent” (rent was 1250). BRO WHERE THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO LIVE? Yes I know the budget would be tight but shit I need a place to live wtf.

Oh and my favorite line “Why don’t you have previous renting history”… ummm maybe because I lived with my mom up until she kicked me out this year WITHOUT NOTICE BTW. Oh “why are you homeless? You’re so young, where are your parents?” DONT WORRY ABOUT THAT, I’m legally an adult and I make enough to pay this rent. I’m confused right now, what are other people in their early 20s doing?? Don’t hit me with “Just make more money” WHY DO YOU THINK IM A STUDENT??? IM TRYING TO MAKE MORE MONEY.

Edit: I’ve tried posting this twice with the flair as “discussion” and it keeps switching to “utilities”.

Edit2: I was kicked out of my mothers house because her boyfriend didn’t want me there any longer. I told her that I’ll leave once I finish my last semester of school which was supposed to be the semester that just past but when she kicked me out, I had to drop down to part time in school so I now have 1 class left. Her boyfriend is not on the lease and doesn’t pay a single bill meanwhile I’d been paying the entire rent for the past 10 months. If you think I’m entitled, I really don’t care. I came here for advice.

I (21F) have a coworker (also 21F) that started at my job around the same time as me. We became friendly pretty quickly and hung out once outside of work for drinks. It was fun and casual. The issue is that I’m a very low maintenance person socially. I mostly go to work, go to the gym, spend time with family and stay home. I have friends but they understand I don’t need constant texting or hanging out. I should also mention I’m kind of socially awkward myself which is why I genuinely can’t tell if I’m being too sensitive here. This coworker is way more social than me and lately she’s been making me uncomfortable even though I think she means well.

For context we work in a busy place where we organize items into numbered spots. We initial things before putting them away so people know who handled what. The problem is she makes mistakes pretty often so I really don’t like when she touches my baskets or starts putting away my stuff. Sometimes I’ll walk away to help a customer and come back to find her doing my work even though I never asked her to. If something is wrong afterward, my initials are still attached to it.

She also “helps” me in ways that honestly just get in the way. For example, if I’m checking out a customer she’ll stand right next to me and start pressing buttons on the register while I’m already doing it. It slows things down more than it helps.

Another thing is she keeps trying to buy me stuff after I’ve said no multiple times. One day I was buying a Gatorade and gum on break and she tried paying for it herself. It wasn’t about the money, I just don’t like people buying things for me unless we’re close.

She also kept insisting on getting me a birthday gift even after I repeatedly told her not to. Eventually I just told her I liked coffee mugs (she did get me one) because she wouldn’t let the conversation go.

Lately she’s also been hovering around me a lot. Sometimes I’ll go on break while she’s clocking out and instead of leaving she’ll stay near me talking. While we’re working she’ll sometimes just stand really close to me without saying anything. We work somewhere where there’s always something to do so it feels weird.

I feel bad because I honestly think she’s a nice person and probably just socially awkward. But I’m socially awkward too and I can’t tell if this is an actual boundary issue or if I’m just too independent and weird about personal space.
I don’t know how to handle this without sounding mean because she hasn’t done anything malicious. So WIBTA for creating distance? And if not, how do I do that without coming across as mean?