How to survive a toxic workplace where people don't talk to you and your ex works there (I broke up with my coworker and now I feel completely alone at work)
I joined my current workplace and eventually started dating someone from the same workplace. What started normally eventually became a very toxic and manipulative relationship, and due to some personal reasons the relationship ended abruptly without no closure.
The problem is that we still work together.
My workplace was already kind of toxic before all of this. There's a lot of gossip, office politics, people taking sides, and unnecessary drama. But after the breakup, everything feels so much worse.
My ex is extremely good at charming people. He's friendly, social, and knows how to make people like him. So while I know what our relationship was actually like, most people at work only see the version of him that he shows them.
I haven't told everyone about the things that happened in our relationship because I don't want to turn my personal life into workplace gossip. But because I'm not constantly defending myself, it feels like his side has automatically become the accepted version.
And now I'm kind of alone.
He has people around him. People joke with him, talk to him, support him, and seem completely comfortable around him.
Meanwhile, I feel like I've lost the person I was closest to at work, and I don't really have many people left there who I genuinely trust.
The weirdest part is that I can be surrounded by people all day and still feel incredibly lonely.
I know I shouldn't expect everyone to take my side, and I'm not looking for revenge or trying to make people hate him. I just wish I didn't feel like I was the only person carrying the weight of what happened while he gets to move on like nothing happened.
How do you cope when your ex is still at your workplace, seems to have everyone's support, and you suddenly feel like you're completely alone?