Rule's to asking for a daughter's hand in marriage?
Hey there, I wanted to ask if there are any rules/ cultural norms to be observed when seeking permission to marry the daughter of Samoan heritage.
Quick backstory, I have been in a relationship with the daughter for 5 years. Have made mistakes earlier in our relationship that had been perceived as disrespectful due to my lack of knowledge of the culture. I'm still learning. This however is something I absolutely do not want to get wrong.
My partner made a comment earlier in our relationship that I would have to bring a gift of pisupo cans when asking, now that I am at that stage I'm wondering if that comment was in jest or if it's what I should do.
As an Aussie I feel as though I'd just ask the father, but her family is very Fa'a Samoa and so I want to ask in a way that's respectful of her culture and her family. I also don't want to ask her extended family as I want her parents and siblings to be the first to know of my intent. And I don't have any other Samoan friends to turn to outside of her close friends, who I don't think could keep this secret 😂.
So I turn to Reddit. Mods please delete if this is outside the scope of this subreddit.