Sorry if this question isn't allowed or comes across as rude or disrespectful, i don't mean it that way
Why are we inventing Samoan-English words? 😭 “Nakoti” instead of fualaʻau faasaina. “Seviki” instead of augutu o le toala fanau. Like… we already have Samoan words! At this rate, we’re going to have a whole new medical dictionary of Samoan-English hybrid words. 💀 Am I the only one bothered by this, or do other Samoans feel the same? 😂
I’m having a discussion with my mother in law who spent most of her life living in the hot weather/no AC and understandably is used to showering multiple times a day. We live in a cooler climate and with AC. My husband who works a very physical job showers 2x day (before and after work). I’ve been bathing our little kids 1x day before bed. They are usually not playing in mud puddles. Again they are little and don’t smell. Is that enough or is my MIL right it should be more?
Using food names in the comments tell me your a Samoan without telling me your a Samoan 😋😋😋
Drop your beautiful village name, and a recommendation of places to visit in Samoa
I absolutely despise Samoan Ai music, it’s so corny because I seriously don’t see what’s cool about listening to a robot singing, but our people are eating it up like it’s revolutionary, it’s so embarrassing hearing it being played, free my people from the shackles of Ai!
On a serious note, when the evil people manage to stunt the second coming of Christ using Ai, best believe our people will fall for it, it’s honestly not even funny…
Hello! 🤗 I’m solo traveling to Samoa and American Samoa and wondering what I should do there? I’m going at the end of September, and flying to American Samoa first.
- Any hotel/ Airbnb recommendations? I don’t want to pay an arm and a leg but I want the hotel to be nice at least, at least 3+ stars.
- How common do places take card? Should I plan on relying on local currency? If so, what’s the best way to exchange currency? Ordering from my bank maybe or a different way when I go to Samoa from American Samoa?
- Local dishes? I want to try local food so lmk what I should try! Is tipping common at restaurants and how much is a good tip there?
- Anything I should know about the local culture? Like dos/ don’ts? I don’t want to accidentally be disrespectful
- How do I stay away/ keep the feral dogs away I’m scared of coconut crabs do they stay away from tourist beaches 😭
- I’m open to doing anything really. I want to go to the National park, spend a little time at the beach. I can’t go there on a regular basis so I want to Jam Pack as much as possible while I’m there. I’m going to rent a car so I’ll have that to explore with and get around. I don’t mind spending a little extra for a good experience but I don’t want to pay an outrageous price either
Thanks! 😊
what about ‘a Samoans German’? 🤣
copped it a couple weeks back. Gnarly to think some Samoa polo from a third world country could own such a thing. Imposter syndrome kicking in like a mf 😂
have a blessed weekend, y’all 🤙🏽 alofa atu
How does it cope if I know and understand a few Samoan words and phrases?
Hi everyone,
First, I want to make it clear that I don't judge an entire culture based on the actions of individuals. I love Samoan culture and married into it for that reason. The only reason I'm posting here is because some of the cultural dynamics involved may be better understood by people of Samoan background.
Background
I met my wife 10 years ago, and our relationship moved very quickly. At the time, I was living alone in a house that I rented and valued my independence highly. After several months of persuasion, I agreed to move in with my wife and her father, whose wife had passed away a few years earlier.
Before moving in, I expressed concerns about giving up my home and becoming dependent on living in a house that wasn't mine. I worried that during disagreements I might be told to leave, leaving me with little choice but to comply. I also understood that her father may not have been entirely comfortable with us living together before marriage.
I spoke to my wife about these concerns before moving in. She assured me that she understood what I was sacrificing and promised she would never use the house against me. Unfortunately, during arguments, I was repeatedly reminded that it was her house and told to leave.
A couple of years before I proposed, I discovered that my wife had been texting her ex-boyfriend. She had even changed his contact name to make it appear as though she was communicating with a female colleague.
I was devastated and tried to understand why they were communicating. Whenever I asked questions, I was accused of being negative, insecure, or dwelling on the past, even though the discovery was still very recent.
A few months later, I checked her Facebook search history and discovered that she had been viewing her ex's profile multiple times every day throughout our relationship, including after I had confronted her about the texting. When I demanded an explanation, she told me she was checking whether one of her friends might be involved with him. That explanation never sat right with me.
From that point on, I struggled with feelings of insecurity and doubt. I felt unable to have an honest conversation about the situation because every attempt was met with denial, anger, or accusations that I was imagining things.
Around the same time, my sister-in-law's five children were removed from her care due to severe abuse within the home. My wife stepped forward to care for them because the alternative was for the children to be separated and placed in different foster homes.
At that point, I found myself in a difficult position. I was already struggling with trust issues in my relationship, yet we suddenly became full-time caregivers to five deeply traumatised children while both working full-time jobs.
Walking away would have been the easier option, but I couldn't bring myself to abandon my wife or those children. I stayed and helped raise them, and eventually we got married.
I never resented the children. What I did resent was feeling as though the issues in my marriage were never addressed because all of our energy was devoted to caring for them.
Over the years, I became increasingly convinced that my wife is strongly drawn to certain types of men and that she behaves differently around them. When I've raised these concerns, I've been told that I'm insecure, paranoid, or imagining things.
Whether I'm right or wrong, the result has been the same: I no longer trust my own judgment. I constantly question myself and feel as though my concerns are dismissed rather than discussed.
We spent years raising those children before they were eventually returned to their mother, while the father was imprisoned for his crimes.
What hurts is that my wife often dismisses the sacrifices I made during that period. She says I only stayed because I had nowhere else to go. From my perspective, I gave up my home, my independence, and many years of my life because I loved her and wanted to support both her and the children.
Hearing that my commitment was simply a matter of convenience feels incredibly unfair.
Recently, one of the nieces told me her phone had broken. I bought her a replacement because I wanted to help.
When I told my wife, she responded by saying that buying gifts for a teenage girl could make me look like I was trying to groom her.
That comment hurt deeply. I helped raise that child from a young age and have always treated her like family. To have my intentions questioned in that way felt insulting and painful.
After everything that has happened, I've lost a lot of confidence in myself. I struggle to speak openly around family members because I constantly feel judged or foolish.
I love my wife very much, and despite everything, I don't want to leave her. Divorce is not something I want.
What I wanted was a normal marriage where we could focus on building our own life together and eventually have children of our own. My wife knows how important that is to me, which is why it hurts when she says things like:
"God will never bless you with your own children until you change the way you are."
There is much more to this story, but this post is already long enough.
I suppose what I'm really asking is this: Am I genuinely seeing problems that need to be addressed, or have years of conflict and self-doubt caused me to lose perspective? How would you approach a situation like this?
Polynesians typically vary from 60-90 percent asian Dna, Do you Identify as Asian? Samoans originally came from Taiwan, So I always find it interesting when Samoans and Polynesians disassociate with being from Taiwan. Is it something you distance yourself from? I'm Part Samoan and I've noticed Polynesians, particularly in places like New Zealand and Australia Bully and make fun of Asians, when they're Asian themselves lol Are you in any way ashamed of your Asian ancestry?
If you are Ashamed of Your Ancestors being from The Coastal areas of China and Taiwan, You're Ashamed of being Samoan and Polynesian. Your ancestors sailed thousands of miles into the Pacific Ocean from Taiwan, Only for you to turn Around in 2026 and be ashamed of them and distance Yourself from them lol You do you, and keep being ashamed of your DNA and your Asian ancestry 👍🏾👌🏾
I’m torn between the idea of sharing our culture vs preserving our culture. And I’m not talking about afakasi’s with Samoan in their blood.
I’ve seen an uptick of videos online of white women waiting until their wedding to put effort into learning our culture, specifically the taualuga. For the Samoan men who date white women specifically, do you set expectations of cultural responsibility? If not, does this question/idea come up?
I’m genuinely curious and I come in peace.
Does anyone has pictures of Tonga from the year 1987 and around?
I am looking for Pangaimotu, Nukualofa, Neiafu, Vavau Group, Hapai Group and anything else
It would be great to have some memories
Thanks a lot
I recently stumbled upon a comment after watching a YouTube video highlighting a Samoan/Palagi wedding, which prompted me to reflect on an important question:
Why are we shifting away from our traditional values and beliefs in favor of Western ideologies?
Our ancestors endured significant hardships—displacement, enslavement, and protest—not just to achieve independence for Samoa but to preserve our way of life: the fa’asamoa.
For years, educators and scholars specialising in indigenous cultural practices have seamlessly intersected with fields like mental health, education, and community development. Yet, in recent times, there has been growing criticism of traditional practices, particularly the fa’asamoa. Critics often argue that mandatory communal contributions drain personal savings and exacerbate financial difficulties for families who are trying to reconcile modern living expenses with cultural requirements. However, this perspective seems to hinge on a false dichotomy—suggesting that one must sacrifice everything to honor tradition. The reality is that fa’asamoa manifests in numerous forms beyond just the expectations of financial contributions.
I believe that the lack of understanding or outright disregard for the complexities of the fa’asamoa is hypocritical. Many contemporary Samoans selectively engage with aspects of our culture that suit them while readily criticising other elements. This selective participation undermines a more nuanced appreciation of our heritage.
Manuia tele faiva ma titute.
Alofa le Atua foai le soifua ma le ola.
Manuia tele tatou faasoa.
Soifua.
Am I the only one cringing out when Samoans say “Samunda”? Like bruh get that corny ass shit outta here😭 our people just be making up bs
I’m thinking about getting a tattoo like the tribal tattoos because honestly in my opinion it’s the only tattoos I think would fit me in 6’4 230 with a little bit a of fat and I’ve tired to look at other tattoos and none of them fit my style but yalls do is it disrespectful for me to get them?
This came out of nowhere, very interesting and very nice as well.
On another note, Darius Visser is also off in Canada for a T10 league.
Hi there,
Just wanting to know if anyone else that has a Malu has experienced their ink fading?
I'm not sure if it's the kind of care or not using enough Samoan oil but I'm finding parts of my Malu have started to fade more since moving to a colder climate.
I'm pretty concerned because even when I use more oil it seems to continue to fade. SOS I'm pretty concerned.