u/MedicalMuffin2267

Hi all,

I'm starting a program in the fall. Trying to borrow loan(s) through private lender and what I'm learning is that students can only borrow up to the remainder amount that is total COA (provided by the school) - federal loan ($20,500) = amount that can be borrowed?

I was advised to borrow with some buffer in case of emergency cash need, etc., however that seems impossible? It doesn't make sense to me that private lenders expect all students to have the same COA that is purely based on the school estimate. You know what I mean?

Have a couple questions! 35F recently broke up w long term bf. new to Bumble.

1. Do you keep old chats after they expire or delete/unmatch them?

I have a guy i liked on his profile, we moved to regular texts and texted in length/openly about things in three-ish days. However after my last text he hasn’t responded. Also given that I matched with him when I was traveling we knew we prob won’t meet until I was back in his city.

2. Our chat expired (two wks ago) and is in the archive. Should I unmatch him?

3. Also, im tired of online dating. Should I delete or is it better to keep it and just be inactive on it considering the chance I may be back on it in the future..?

Small rant: online dating is harder than it used to be!

Can you hide your location on your profile? Matched w someone who doesnt have “location”/“from” at all at the bottom. What does that mean?

I think the ending is clear but would love to hear other thoughts.

broke up with a long term bf last year, exactly a year ago. recently started online dating.

I was on a work trip last week that I extended for personal visit with friends. had the travel mode on, but didn’t really intend on using the app or meeting new ppl thru the app.

opened my app out of curiosity at the gate of my returning flight (ofc opened it as I was coming back home, not earlier), saw a super swipe from someone whose profile I then viewed and thought he’s totally my type. I swiped yes and we matched, messaged him as I was boarding literally. told him I was on my way back home from a work trip, assuming he’d prob stop talking then after knowing I live on the other side of the country. got a message back a day and a half later from him acknowledging it and we exchanged some messages, and he said he does not visit my city anymore. then left his # to contact if I’m in his city again (which I do go there often and I told him that).

then I texted his # from my # to ask some stuff I was genuinely curious about (and I wanted to text lets be honest) so we exchanged some texts, however long txts bc I wrote a bit (idk why bc I typically dont! but I think a part of me was hoping to see if this had any, even just a bit of potential)… and I overshared a bit in terms of my upcoming transition- moving to another state, new career, how I was cautious to date bc of my transition but my friends encouraged me that my professional transition doesn’t need to halt my personal life so I recently started trying online app, etc. and with my text being the last I never heard back since three nights ago. So this must be ghosting, right? (I didn’t mean to overwhelm or “get serious” but rather given that this was a long distanced communication, I just wanted to get clarity asap).

on paper, he seemed great and text wise, he was very thoughtful and genuine or at least I thought so.

I guess I’m asking for thoughts when I know that the ending is clear here- I matched with someone I find cute, good fit (on paper) in a place where I don’t live and with my situation etc., this all means nothing.. but why am I still thinking about this? has anyone ever experienced something similar?

Got a reserve role for Team Services. What do we think are the chances for the waitlist folks?