AITJ for saying i feel the same as my husband who is 4000 miles away and lonely today while im going to spend some time with his family?
(Mobile)To start, I dont want to go. Im going because he wants me to go. I have severe GAD and meeting new people or being around people makes my anxiety worse and causes panic attacks. But he wants me to go so I can meet more of his family even without him here. If he was here it would be a little less anxiety ridden for me.
Now to why I may be the jerk. He is far away at work and telling me how lonely he feels being the first holiday he hasn't seen his family or been with me the last few years.
I responded I understand and feel for him being so far away. I wish he was here. I miss him.
He told me I didnt understand, which I then responded, yea I do, haven't seen my side of thw family in seven years going on 8 and I feel lonely every holiday because I moved to your town where I know no one, and then we moved again close to your family and I really no one and well you have your family that I just met and all the people you grew up with. So I know lonely.
He didnt respond other than yea, I need to meet your family one day. And that hes glad im going to his family's firework thing so they can show me off to their friends and people can meet me and I wont be lonely.
Which i responded, I dont wont to go to a big gathering where I only know his mom and dad who will be hosting and I will be made to feel like a spectacle and how bad that will set off my anxiety. And if yall have anxiety yall will understand why this will be such a bad situation without your ground person there.
So yea I may be the jerk because I get to go hang with his family and friends that I dont know but I told him I feel lonely like him while hes 4000 miles away?
TlDR : I told my husband who is 4000 miles away that I feel lonely too after he said he was lonely and feeling down, even though I get to go spend time with his familyeven though I dont want to go becausw my severe anxiety, I ended up reminded him that I haven't seen my family in 7 almost 8 years.