AITA for being disgusted with my FIL and starting to feel disgusted by my husband?
I may be biased already. But my(29f) FIL(50’sm) wife(stepMIL) passed a few months ago from cancer. But while she was sick, her family accused and contacted authorities because they felt FIL was basically medically neglecting her. She passed at the end of last year and of course, stepMIL family wanted him charged with her passing(too much to explain for the post). But only 1.5 mos after her passing, FIL gets a new GF and is completely up her ass. Sold or trashed all of step MIL thins and it’s like she’s been completely forgotten. 13 years of marriage….
And now, FIL is trying to shove his new GF down our throats. It’s all he talks about. Never his grandkids, never anything else but this new GF. When I had a birthday party for my children(his grandkids) and he brought her, he stayed glued to her hip the entire time on the edge of the party and didn’t even really interact with my kids. Ive made no effort to get to know her because what kind of woman dates a man whose wife passed 1.5 mos ago but then acts so callous afterwards? I don’t want to know. And she makes comments about it so she knows….
This is where I am today though.
Because FIL is up new GF’s ass, he goes and spends DAYS at her house leaving his two pet dogs at home with no one checking on them. Last night we had a massive storm that cut the power and also it was the 4th of July so fireworks + dogs. ITS HOT. Does he seemed worried about the dogs when I asked him today? No, he was more worried about new GFs house and the damage at her house. When I talk to my husband he just says “idk” and seems really annoyed with me, but those were his family dogs too. He lived with those dogs for years before we moved into a house together. Hubby also keeps trying to shove the new GF down my throat…. And when I bring it up to my MIL or hubby, they act like I’m being crazy. Like there’s nothing wrong with all of this. When I had my husband go over and check on the dogs because his dad(FIL), 36 hours later, still had not been home and no one had even been there to check on the dogs, he acted annoyed.
AITA for being disgusted by all of this or voicing my opinion? I’ve refused to even be around FIL because I’m still grieving the loss of stepMIL(who I knew for almost 5 years) and I refuse to listen to him shove new GF or tell us about how exciting his life is now. I cannot believe that hubby, and my actual MIL seems to be encouraging all of this. My hubby gets mad when I bring any of it up, but no, I don’t want to hear about how great the conversation was between you and your dad about how great his life is now. It all feels so callous and disgusting to me.
So, AITA for refusing to be around FIL, bringing up my feelings to my hubby, and feeling disgusted with every person in this situation?